betterdeal Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 He wants me back.. Of course he does ... he has eyes, right?!? The question is, do you want him back?
TheDovic Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Do you not think it can work with an ex? I live in the same street as two of my best friends, both of whom were dumped but are now both happily married to the girls who broke their hearts! Plus my aunt and uncle broke up in their early 20s for a whole year but are now happily married and have been for 20 years so it CAN work with an ex. Good luck Stella
Author StellaA Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 Thanks thedovic.....first positive comment i hsve had although i respect people's honesty
immitable Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Stella what everyone is saying is don't be hasty, let him simmer a little longer befor you put him on a serving plate, you know what I mean
geegirl Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 We know you want to hear about the "happy endings" but he left you quick and fast. Just be cautious. It's great to have a fairy tale ending but there's a reality to your situation that you need to deal with and that is to be cautious and tread carefully.
Author StellaA Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 Has anyone else had their ex come back?
immitable Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Has anyone else had their ex come back? Yes but I was the dumper in my previous relationships. Now I am the dumpee and have NC with my ex gf of 5 years. In my previous relationships I came back only to break up with them as I wasn't aware of the pain I caused them, convinced myself again that the flaws were still there. Remember your ex took a long good look at you before he broke it off and said to himself "nah, I'll try my luck elsewhere!"
fetish1980 Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 O/P Kind of in the same situation. My ex has tried to come back several times since our b/u. We broke up in February this year. She came back in June/July wanting to get back together and recently this past week. As for my situation, i still love my ex (at least the memory she represents). I was with her for 8 years. But she has a history of leaving which is her attempt to try to control situations when she doesn't want to deal with the ssues. That's emotional abuse to me, so i'm choosing not to go backards. Not that i don't love her, it's just i have to do what's best for me. I've been through this whole storm of pain hopefully to get some growth out of it, not just to revert and go back to the same thing that caused me pain. Yes, i still have pangs of guilt for not wanting to chance myself again with someone who's been long apart of my life. As for you, i hope you evaluate very closely. I understand how you feel. You're scared of losing him forever if you don't go back, You still feel you love him, you don't think you could deal with the guilt if you reject him now and he never comes back. But can you honestly trust him again knowing that he could just leave you in the drop of a hat? Geegirl said it best, it's in his nature to leave. I know you want to hear the fairytales and everything that feels should make sense, but you're confusing positive and negative comments on here. Everyone on here is telling you positive comments, for your own healing. TheDovic's post wasn't any more positive, it was just closest to what you wanted to hear. Try to be a litte receptive to what everyone is saying. fetish
geegirl Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 (edited) I had an ex leave but came back and left again no sooner than it started. The thing is that the reasons he left the first time (not ready for R) came right back the moment he started back with me the second time. The only reason he came back was because he was having a hard time being on his own/single/missing the fact that he had someone. He confused that for wanting to be with me. Edited October 11, 2011 by geegirl
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