met with ex, what now?

[Vonhart]

Hey,

 

not sure if you have read any of my previous post's, but just a upadte and maybe you could all give a little advice.

so sunday came and she text me in the morning to see if the time is ok to meet up and where, i looked good, was not over dressed, smelt nice, and had my positive head on, she looked a bit rough, said she was hungover..

so we swapped each others bits and she explained that she had not had a chance to put the pictures she took of holiday and other things we had done with the kids on a usb key for me as she had not been to her mums to do it, she gave me my stuff which i threw into the car, i suggested if she wanted to get a coffee and she agreed , so we had a chat a bit of small talk, about what we have both been up to etc.. to be honest it was a nice chat and very mature, i cracked a few jokes which lightend the mood.

then we got onto relationship talk, this went the usual way, i apologised for losing my temper (this happend once and it was just a shouting argument from both side), said would love to promise it would never happen aain but you have heard all this beforer so i dont expect you to believe me due to the fact your ex and her used to row all the time, i explained that its not me and i am not normally like this, trying to picture why i acted like that and think it may have to do with all previous gf's i have had i have let walk all over me and that i would stand up for myself more, shame with the wrong girl, she said she hoped i learn from my mistake.

SO we finished coffee and walked back to the cars, again i explained that its best we have space now and that i am sorry i deleted your facebook account but i did it so i dont do my head in checking you page every 10 mins etc.. she said she understood and that she has not cold hearted.

so she said that she will wait for me to call then, i said yeah cool, then she pulled me in for a big squeeze and kiss on the cheek, i turned away and got in my car, i am posative she was teary eyed as she walked away and i could tell it upset her, i text her when i got home just saying taht it was nice to see her even though it was rubbish circumstances and that i hope she is ok, she replaied it was the same for her, a few jokes went back and forth and after every one she was checking if i was ok??

 

 

we text last night as she put a dvd in the bag by accident with my stuff, so i text her saying tahtnks for the gift, she replied , is this one of those moments when i smile and nod or admit it was a mistake, but then a wink next to it and asking what to do. i turned this into a joke by saying if it was a mistake i'll give it back but if its a gift she fogot the case, she told me i could have it seeing as i liked the film, i said thanks for the mistake, she then said night and hope you are ok smily face.

 

i can read this girl, aM I GETTING MIXED SIGNALS, i was last to text, shall i just leave her to contact me, i am not a game [player but do really want my GF back..

 

please some advice?

[Space Ritual]

I have read all of your posts in the past few minutes...and you are NOT moving on. She still has you by the short hairs....you are being too nice and you are going to get BURNED!

 

 

Look, seems to me her big hangup is that she never got over her ex....hence the liberal comparisons she makes between the two of you.

 

You can't be half assed about things like this. either crap or get off the pot. NO contact means NO CONTACT. You are not the first one to try the limited contact route...and you will certainly not be the last...but you will also noty be the last who has failed at it because things like "limited contact" do not exist in the real world.

If you equate deleting her off of FB as "getting your manhood back" then I submit to you there isn't much a manhood to get back. Have some damn self respect and refuse to be compared and contrasted by this loser of a woman..Jesus you think if the meeting was important enough to her she would not be hungover....you think about that? does it make you think as well that you are probably doing yourself a favor by deleting this person form your life. If this drama happens at only 5 months out, how do you think it will be in another 5 months? You dodged a bullet...think of it down the road if you had a blended family and a mortgage together and this all came up...you'd fondly look back at last Sunday and scratch your head and wonder why you didn't just pull the plug in the first place.

 

Cut this person out of your life...no good will come form this relationship....

[immitable]

I agree with SpaceRitual, it saounds alittle harsh but maybe you need this wake up call, and please go on strict NC for now.