barriob Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Update: I have been doing better without him and I have been NC FOR ALMOST A WEEK NOW. i had a breakdown today and started crying. i feel like texting him but i dont know. any suggestions please??
LelouchIsZero Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 What do you think texting him is going to achieve? (and I'm not asking that in a mean way, its actually just a question)
Author barriob Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 probably nothing. i want him to know i care
LelouchIsZero Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 probably nothing. i want him to know i care Care about what? and please don't respond saying "about him"
Buttercup84 Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Please don't . I felt so tempted too today , I woke up feeling like it all happened again . I wanted to write him an email but won't . Please don't do it !
Dark Phoenix Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Update: I have been doing better without him and I have been NC FOR ALMOST A WEEK NOW. i had a breakdown today and started crying. i feel like texting him but i dont know. any suggestions please?? Lelouch is right, you should be asking yourself what your intentions are in contacting him and what contacting him would ultimately achieve. You've done well so far in deciding the answers to these questions and should continue to question everything you want to do that involves your ex. You said yourself that you have been doing better without him, that is a good sign. You also stated that you had a breakdown, which is completely normal. As you stick to NC your breakdowns will happen less frequently and the severity of the pain that these breakdowns cause diminishes. You also learn to cope with these breakdowns making the pain go away much quicker. Understand, that contacting him will cause you more pain and interfere with you learning to cope with these breakdowns. With NC and discipline you will heal and the pain will disappear, but it takes time. I know you have it in you to remain NC and heal. You've gone a full week without any contact with him. Now set a goal to see if you can go another full week without contact, keep setting these goals and eventually NC will not seem like such a daunting task.
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