Ladies what is the best way to respond to friend's wife OMG

[sexyNsingle]

HI there,

Anyone have some advice as to how to best deflect or respond to a friend's wife's advances and taking flirting too far? What is the best course of action that will leave me not feeling guilty and not making any waves? Also, should I feel guilty for anything that she initiates? If so, at what point does her "flirting" become my fault or responsibility?

 

Thanks

[PegNosePete]

If your friend is a real friend then you will tell him. It becomes your responsibility when you either reciprocate or allow it to continue..

[RiverRunning]

I think that telling your friend could backfire. He'll probably automatically defend his wife and that will be the end of your friendship.

 

The next time she starts to flirt with you, put on a big, cheesy smile and tell her, "Oh, Janice, you know the only woman I flirt with is my wife." Don't feel guilty for what she initiates - your responsibility begins depending on how you respond. But you do need to nip this in the bud if it's making you uncomfortable.

 

Maybe you could even pull his wife aside one day and politely tell her, "Janice, I love your sense of humor. But you could make a sailor blush with some of the stuff you say!" Maybe she doesn't quite realize how far she's going, and it'll make her more attentive to her words.

[stillafool]

Next time she hits on you, tell her "hey stop that, you are being inappropriate", and do not smile, then walk away from her. She will get the message.

[PegNosePete]

If my wife were flirting with my friends then I would want them to tell me. So I would offer the same courtesy in return.

[KathyM]

Your response should depend on what exactly she is doing. If she is being physical (such as hugs, hands on your arm, etc.), then you take a step back, or do a so-called polite side hug, and make a comment, such as "I don't want to give Joe the impression that I'm hitting on his wife," or words to that effect. If she is complimenting you, just say a polite "Thank you." Make an effort to keep your distance and not be in too close of a proximity to her, and if she is just to blatant about it, you could say "I would never do anything to jeopardize my friendship with Joe," or I value my friendship with Joe." Keeping verbal space and physical space is the answer.

[nofool4u]

HI there,

Anyone have some advice as to how to best deflect or respond to a friend's wife's advances and taking flirting too far? What is the best course of action that will leave me not feeling guilty and not making any waves?

 

start dropping hints like, "oh I don't think this is appropriate" or, "I really don't think we should be talking about this"

 

but then again a problem still remains. Your friend's wife is disrespecting your friend. I'd feel damn awkward knowing a friend of mine's wife is acting like a dog in heat.

 

 

 

Also, should I feel guilty for anything that she initiates? If so, at what point does her "flirting" become my fault or responsibility?

 

normally I'd say you are doing something to invite her behavior. at the very least you are by not nipping it in the butt.

 

Its your responsibility if you flirt back or invite the flirting in some way.

[jnj express]

You might just ask her, what the ring on her finger means, or is it just a symbol of nothing---then tell her either she cuts out the crap, or you will tell her H---hopefully she gets the message

[Farrah]

Here is a question for you...

If you were married if your not already would you want your friends to flirt and be playful with your wife behind your back?If the answer is 'no" then this is what Id say...other womens husbands feel the same way about their wives.Respect that and treat others the way you want to be treated and the way you want your wife to be treated.

 

 

HI there,

Anyone have some advice as to how to best deflect or respond to a friend's wife's advances and taking flirting too far? What is the best course of action that will leave me not feeling guilty and not making any waves? Also, should I feel guilty for anything that she initiates? If so, at what point does her "flirting" become my fault or responsibility?

 

Thanks

[mike111]

If so, at what point does her "flirting" become my fault or responsibility?

 

When you initiate it, or return it.

 

Cut her off like NOW. Before you both end up with egg on your faces.

 

mike

[Farrah]

I totally agree..

 

 

When you initiate it, or return it.

 

Cut her off like NOW. Before you both end up with egg on your faces.

 

mike

[PegNosePete]

tell her either she cuts out the crap, or you will tell her H---hopefully she gets the message

Or just moves onto the next guy, a month later Joe finds out his wife is cheating on him, and that she hit on you previously and you did not tell him.

 

I would always tell a friend if his wife was hitting on me. IMO, he deserves to know what she has done, whether she has "got the message" or not.