mkbrownie Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 So I never knew that taking a 3 week trip to Europe would bring so much drama into my life. I fell in love with a girl from Germany who I quickly managed to push away, then began talking to a Spanish girl virtually 24/7. I have a dilemma however, let me explain: 1) The German girl As I mentioned earlier, I fell in love with her almost instantly. It was incredible what happened. But I turned into a shell of myself, obsessive and clingy, and she pushed me away. I had resided to the fact that I would never talk to her again, but then she decided that she would hop back into my life without a memory of what happened (we stopped talking initially after I told her how much I felt for her), and since then she has played games with me. She continuously pulls the "long response" time trick, taking about 5 days respond to the last thing I say to her in our conversation, then chatting for maybe 5 minutes and doing it all over again. It pisses me off because we aren't children and she shouldn't act like one. But I have giant mood swings about her, like sometimes she frustrates me so much that I want to never see her again, but then we talk and I want to buy her roses again. 2) The Spanish girl I'm going to admit this relationship cane straight out of left field. When I met her I thought she was cute but my buddy spent more time with her and he really liked her. I basically forgot about her until suddenly my buddy tells me she broke up with her boyfriend and she began to talk to me at every chance she had me. She told me to get a wifi enabled app that allows us to text and now we talk from wake up to sleep time. My feelings are not nearly as strong for her as they are for the geman girl but things with her are great. Here's my dillemma: should I even pay attention to the German girl at all? Now that I have someone else who cares about me and treats me like an adult, does she even deserve my time? The problem is that i still feel so much for this German girl, for no apparent reason. No matter what I say, I always cave and talk to her immediately when she responds after her annoying hiatuses. From an outsider's perspective does the German girl even deserve my time, or should I try to juggle the two potential relationships? Thanks a lot.
Coil Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 German girl sounds flakey and like she is playing games. I'd say give the other girl a shot and maybe talk the 5 minutes every few days with the German until you feel that the other girl has potential. Not really sure the German girl is worth it tbh.
Author mkbrownie Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 Heres an update: Things with the Spanish girl are still great, but today the German girl and I talked for probably three hours, up until she went to sleep. I am happy, but also confused and unsure. I'm confused as to why she seems to ignore me one second than talk with me for so long the next. I'm unsure because when I talk to her it's so much more of a feeling like catching up with an old friend rather than the fun talks we used to have. Don't get me wrong, they are still fun, but it seems like we are just going through the motions if that makes sense. Anyone felt this before?
Author mkbrownie Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 please help, I feel like I'm stuck in limbo and just can't move on...
whichwayisup Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 The German girl, you have passion and chemistry with, she confuses you, has a hold over you and it's fun yet unsettling because you do not know what her true intentions are... You want her, and I'm sure the sex would be incredibly hot and passionate. But, she IS playing games with you and she is feeding her ego by using you. I doubt very much you'd have much trust in her and if you two truly got together it wouldn't last long due to drama and immature games, mistrust. The Spanish girl, well, from what you've said I think she's your second choice and nobody likes to be the 'back up girl or second choice to fall back on' so I suggest you back off of BOTH girls and start fresh. Your heart isn't in it with her, she likes you more than you like her ... Hmm, seem familiar? You like the German girl more than she likes you.. Anyway, make a decision and stick to it. Don't keep bouncing between these two girls.
Author mkbrownie Posted October 20, 2011 Author Posted October 20, 2011 That's seems about right. I really do not know what the German girls intentions are, and the constant wondering frustrates me... By backing off both girls do u mean breaking off communications? Because I'm going back to Europe this summer and I'm pretty sure in going to see them. Anyway, it will be very hard for me to back off of both of them. I think I could be friends with the Spanish girl but I simply could not be friends with the german girl. I'm actually getting really depressed over this so making a decision is imperative. Anyone else have any thoughts on how I should deal with this?
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