david king Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 Hello! I actually already know exactly what I am going to say to her, but when I tell her I am going to have short conversation first and then segue into it. What is a good way to segue into it though? I thought of saying "do you have a few minutes to talk about something?" but I thought she might say "we are talking!". So, yeah, any ideas here to segue? Thanks very much!
Author david king Posted October 10, 2011 Author Posted October 10, 2011 That is not how i am going to do it. Any thoughts?
BrentB Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Well, It's not so much what you say as HOW you say it. Women like confident, straight forward, masculine men. The best advice is to not beat around the bush but just come on out and say what you gotta say. Imagine yourself as a caveman talking to a cavewoman. Attraction is primal!
Trovador Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 I am seeing this girl for a few weeks and she already knows I like her, despite I never asked her for a "serious conversation"... what I did (and always do) was showing her how important she was to me, gradually, feeding her if you will... I told her that she was brilliant, that I liked certain features of hers (like her voice and eyes) and that she was really different to any woman I had met ever... I wrote her a poem, half romantic, half erotic, that I sent her every couple of days by phone texts... Well, a day she asked me what I wanted from her. "I love you", was my answer... so the beans are spilled (is that how the saying goes?) and we are not together maybe because the logistics (we are coworkers... yeah... I know), but the point is to show you how I told her I was into her... I think if she doesn't suspect anything about your feeling, your revelation will be shocking... remember, most girls takes you as a friend if you don't come forward the first days... And at least, when you let her know gradually that you dig her, you are giving the girl a fair chance to walk away...
U1987 Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Hello! I actually already know exactly what I am going to say to her, but when I tell her I am going to have short conversation first and then segue into it. What is a good way to segue into it though? I thought of saying "do you have a few minutes to talk about something?" That's a terrible idea; are you in high school or something? You don't tell a girl that you like her; you casually, in a cool, smooth way, ask her out, then you show her you like her.
Trovador Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 A quick question: what is to "segue"... (English is not my native tongue...)
Pierre Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Hello! I actually already know exactly what I am going to say to her, but when I tell her I am going to have short conversation first and then segue into it. What is a good way to segue into it though? I thought of saying "do you have a few minutes to talk about something?" but I thought she might say "we are talking!". So, yeah, any ideas here to segue? Thanks very much! Most women generally know when a man is interested. It is all about body language. I find that using stupid excuses to talk to them works well and does not cause tension. Another good technique is to say they look great in a non threatening manner. For example you may praise her outfit for the day instead of actually praising her. Ask her to hang out in the same manner you ask a friend to hang out. This is like asking her for a date without having to ask for a date.
Author david king Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 A quick question: what is to "segue"... (English is not my native tongue...) segue is a transition.
Author david king Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 Any other thoughts? I already know what I am going to say and how I am going to say it (and don't worry, I am not going to say "i like you") But, again, my question actually is how to segue into it? So as I said, I am going to talk to about something else briefly, make small talk, and then get into it. What is good way to make that segue? As I sated I thought "do you have a few minutes to talk about something?" is one idea I had. Any other thoughts? Again, I have what I am going to tell her and how I am going to tell her all covered but I just need a good segue.
FitChick Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 I've never had a guy tell me he liked me. Instead, they show me by spending time with me, always being reliable, being thoughtful, generous, laughing with me, etc. A man who wanted to have a serious conversation about it would turn me off. He would probably be the type of man who would ask permission to kiss me.
betterdeal Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 (edited) Talk to her, and if the conversation is flowing and your bodies are saying YES to each other, just think something you'd like to do with her, and soon enough, you'll be asking her if she wants to. Even better, if you're bodies are getting closer and you guys are touching each other (hands tend to have a habit of doing that when the chemistry is right) then relax, clear your mind of thoughts and words, and go with the flow. Your eyes and mouth will do all the work for you. If you really need to say something, just pause and say something obvious, like "can I kiss you?" or ""you have a fantastic arse". It's a key change, more than anything. The song goes on. Edited October 11, 2011 by betterdeal
Author david king Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 To just to explain a little more, I already have everything done as to what I am going to say and I how I am going to say it. (perhaps I should edit the title of the thread...) and, again, my question is merely on the segue. One another background detail is that her parents are rather strict Christians and they don't want her to date, but to be courting someone. So, to sum up some of what I am going to say, I was going to tell her some things I like about her and that I would like to court her. (Again, this is really what her parents expect and since I would like to be with their daughter, I am going going to respect their wishes and do things as they see fit.) With that being said, I am going to make a little small talk first and then segue into telling her. What is a good way to segue though? Do my"do you have a few minutes to talk about something?" work? Thanks
betterdeal Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 What's the difference between what you're doing together now and courting?
Author david king Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 Courting is more official and you are exploring the idea of marriage, etc. And any other thoughts? A good segue? Thanks
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