Thehusband2 Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 wife doesnt want sex, doesnt care to discuss it either...just says she doesnt need it and she doesnt have a problem with it..... tired of a sexless life!!!!!!!!!! please dont say communicate...she just responds... just relax!!! help
SidLyon Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 (edited) wife doesnt want sex, doesnt care to discuss it either...just says she doesnt need it and she doesnt have a problem with it..... tired of a sexless life!!!!!!!!!! please dont say communicate...she just responds... just relax!!! help You do need to communicate but I'm guessing you haven't actually told her how you really feel; especially that you are so desperate for sex and intimacy that you will definitely go elsewhere for it; eg woman at work who is paying you lots of attention, flattering you, admiring you etc. Your situation is common and most men in your situation are not honest with their wives that a sexless marriage will eventually become a seriously undermined by infidelity marriage and potentially a non-marriage. Edited October 10, 2011 by SidLyon
sadcalifornian Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 Women need love and men need sex. I know this sounds sexist and degrading especially for men, but I think this is generally true. If women find it hard to stay in a relationship with no love, men should find it unacceptable to stay in a relationship with no sex also. On this forum, infidelity is considered the evil of all evil and nothing should justify it, but honestly as a man I find it difficult not to side with you. I am sure you tried to communicate with your W on this a million times already, but did you tell her that you are contemplating stepping out of boundary because of her denial for sex? Did you hint her that you are even considering D because of this issue? How strongly have you stressed the seriousness of this issue?
whichwayisup Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 wife doesnt want sex, doesnt care to discuss it either...just says she doesnt need it and she doesnt have a problem with it..... tired of a sexless life!!!!!!!!!! please dont say communicate...she just responds... just relax!!! help Be honest with her and tell her straight up that you're considering cheating on her, that's how you're handling "no sex". Tell her that you're tired of her not listening to you and its' time for a change. My suggestion actually is, put everything on the table, talk it out, come to a decision.. Either divorce, or have an open marriage. You seem really unhappy so doing nothing isn't working. Just don't cheat on her. As much as you feel justified to do so, don't do it.
samsungxoxo Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 (edited) If you cheat then you'll become the typical stereotype of the famous men just want to get in your pants phrase. Whenever you think about it, ask yourself ''Do I want to become a disgusting pig no women likes'' or ''What if my wife gets hurt and I end up destroying my marriage''? Edited October 11, 2011 by samsungxoxo
carhill Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 As a former MM, I'd suggest reconsidering, at least the cheating part. Up to you whether you want to tell her you're going to get your sex elsewhere. If you do, it won't be cheating.
fooled once Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Then tell her you are done with the marriage because you refuse to spend the rest of your life sexless. Is she saying no to sex or not to sex every day? Is she saying she never wants to have sex with you again?
Space Ritual Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 get a divorce. Ask for a open marriage. Choose. ^^^^^^ this!!!!
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