Damn kid, am I prejudiced?

[ShannonMI]

I actually seen a couple of women on dating sites, once I remember specifically saying IN her profile that she ONLY dates interacially, and that she has NO interest in white men, even though she's white herself.

 

Not sure why this is?

 

She said in the past she's attempted to date white guys, but they just don't "do it" for her.

 

Think it's a fetish? Or can white women be truely unattracted to other white men and if so, why?

You know the saying...once you go black, you never go back. Could be for a number of reasons. I wouldn't go so far as to call it a fetish though. I'm a white woman and I'm truly not attracted to black men. It's all about preference I think.

Edited October 11, 2011 by ShannonMI

[nofool4u]

Lol most little boys (you, your friend and your a baby boy brother) are scared of black men because you are all threatened by them, you all insecure and not confident about what you have to offer physically, sexually, aesthetically, etc. Your little stereotype in your head proves you are ignorant and have never been around black people before, or perhaps it is to make yourself feel better after you've learned women like and have been with realer men than you, idk. But I do know black men have so much that a lot of you jealous men want, and you feel insecure and threatened by that, and it soooo unattractive in a ma to be that way, reminds me of how a 17 year old little boy would think, yuck. Such a turn off.

 

I don't see how your post here is any better than MDM's

[nofool4u]

There are a lot of men like you. They don't usually mind if black guys are with the fat, unattractive women. But when an attractive woman is with a black guy, she is tainted.

 

That sounds about right. There is a woman where I work that would exclusively date black men. She then swore off of them for whatever reason.

 

She is attractive, but not drop dead gorgeous or anything, but attractive enough to catch men's eye.

 

Problem is, and based on what you said above, she has big problems getting dates, at least among men that know her. I tend to hear alot, but keep my mouth shut. I had one guy tell a group of us having drinks after work talking about her. He said that he'd hit it except he knows what was in her, and looked at another guy at the table and said, "I wouldn't f*** her with your dick!"

 

The guys struck up a conversation about her past dating preferences, and one said it wasn't so much that she dated black men before, but that she did so exclusively "back in the day". Like it was a fetish or something. I was sitting here listening to it all not saying a word. It was pretty enlightening as to the relation to this thread.

[nofool4u]

You know the saying...once you go black, you never go back.

 

and maybe thats part of the problem on why some guys would think as OP. because I think that phrase was coined by black men, which is seen as an insult to white men.

[nofool4u]

Is it really an insult though? If that's the best black racists can come up with then I pity them, no wonder they're society's bottom feeders if their intelligence can only muster that up.

 

its not an insult to me. no phase here. just saying I believe its seen as an attempt at an insult.

 

if the situation were reversed and a white guy was trying to claim superiority in the dating realm over a black guy, all hell would break loose over that

[OliveOyl]

I'm short and white and I couldn't be happier. You only get one life and I am not wasting a single moment of it b*tching about what I can't change. I'm happy for who I am, I am delighted to be white, I wouldn't want to be any other race. Mr Dream Merchant should take note and embrace his tri-racial links instead of hating one aspect of it, but I'll leave him to his own devices.

 

This I totally agree with.

 

I understand not wanting to date a specific race or culture, but not wanting to date someone who has dated a specific race or culture in the past seems very weird. It's the whole "person as an object" mythology. That people are like objects in a store or cars on the road whose bluebook value goes down when they are made less valuable by "mileage" or can be "soiled" by previous owners, or "used" or "used up."

 

People are not products on a shelf or cars on the road!

[irc333]

You know the saying...once you go black, you never go back. Could be for a number of reasons. I wouldn't go so far as to call it a fetish though. I'm a white woman and I'm truly not attracted to black men. It's all about preference I think.

 

 

Actually, I emailed her in regards to that funny quote. lol And asked her what her deal was with not liking her own race.

 

She kinda got irritated with the fact she gets so many emails from white guys saying this. (Kind of makes sense though that they would.)

[Pillow]

African-American girl here. I figured I might chime in.

 

Mr. Dream Merchant has always had issues about women. Either he doesn't like them after he sleeps with them or he doesn't like them if they sleep around too much and now he doesn't like them if they date someone , i.e, a black guy.

 

The three points that have been touched on this board are 1.) Race 2.) Misogyny and fear of rejection 3.) class: "South Floridians are low class" "white trash", all 3 central pillars of capitalistic control.

 

Interestingly, in your comments Mr. Dream Merchant is not what you say, but what you imply. If you say that you believe non-white women who date black men "could do better" implies, black men are not good enough for white women. You are undoubtedly American, for what is more American, than holding white women on a pedestal and claiming them to remain untouched and virginal, especially in regards to black men? The first rape laws that were enacted in our country was to protect the purity of white women. Not to mention drug laws, as it was feared black men on drugs would attempt to rape white women.

 

Before WW2, the country of Germany was at its lowest financially. The country had just lost a war, and the nation's self-esteem was at its lowest. The German currency at the time was only good as fire fuel. Hitler came up with many plans for restarting the German economy, but one of his best, most enduring ideas was 1.) identification of a common enemy the German people could identify against 2.) ostracization of that enemy 3.) use of caricature that emphasizes all of the bad stereotypes of the enemy 4.) fear 5.) German's peoples want for a sense of identity. It has been shown in many regards that Hitler's characterization of Jewish people was very similar to racism. He in fact said Jews were another "race".

 

I am not comparing you to Hitler, as Hitler was in a position of far more power than me or you have been OP, and I believe him to be of much higher brillance than I hold you for. I believe you are very similar to the German people at the time.

 

The short form is, reiterating what has already been said is, your prejudice is guided by your lack of self-esteem, embarrassment, wanting to belong (you do have 3 races), want to fit-in, and jealousy of percieved threat, loss of privilege.