TxTechGirl04 Posted May 16, 2004 Posted May 16, 2004 Okay....so I posted a few days ago about ex dumping me and saying he just doesn't have feelings for me anymore...lots has happened since then... We have been talking quite a bit and although he still insists that he doesnt have feelings for me anymore, he says that he is very physcally attracted to me...we decided to spend one night together...when we return to school...I basically asked him if we could just have one more night to see how things are...he still insists that he doesn't have feelings for me, but wants to spend this night with me just to see how it feels...what do I do? He has repeatedly told me that he is still very physically attracted to me and so I know that if we allow something physical to happen then it will...I'm just worried that we'll get caught up in the moment and feelings will come out...I am trying so hard to get over him but I still want to have this one last night... Also, I told him that I no longer have feelings for him (even though I do) except I added that I did like his body...and he replied..."well that was rude". If he doesn't have feelings for me then why did it offend him for me to say that I don't feel anything except physical attraction? Also, I told him that I did have any feelings for him than I would just block them out and not let him know, and he was like "no don't block your feelings"! I just don't get men! Someone help!!!
Neo Posted May 16, 2004 Posted May 16, 2004 What the hell is going on here? Sounds like a fairly manipulative case here. Don't have sex with him if you wish to break things off. Also it may not have been good to say that you no longer had feelings when you did. Doesn't sound like you'd gain much by having sex with him.
Author TxTechGirl04 Posted May 16, 2004 Author Posted May 16, 2004 I only said that I don't have feelings for him, because I don't want him to think that I'm trying to get him back...sex is not necessarily what Im worried about...I just dont know how to act when I see him...the best way for me to go into the situation so I dont get hurt!?!
faux Posted May 16, 2004 Posted May 16, 2004 Originally posted by TxTechGirl04 I only said that I don't have feelings for him, because I don't want him to think that I'm trying to get him back...sex is not necessarily what Im worried about...I just dont know how to act when I see him...the best way for me to go into the situation so I dont get hurt!?! The best way to go into this situation, without getting hurt is... Do not go into this situation. You will be used. You will care more than he does. He will get what he wants. Do not set yourself up to be hurt. You are already stressing out over this. I know how feelings can blind one's judgement, though, so I expect that you will spend the night with him, have sex with him, and make it even harder for you to get over this whole thing.
Heoga Posted May 16, 2004 Posted May 16, 2004 Trust me on this please, if you have sex with your ex, it WILL be harder to let go. I was in that situation, been there done that got the t-shirt so to speak. My gf and I continued to have moments where we 'let go' for several weeks after we split (her doing). Not good... I ended up thinking we still had a chance to get back together because she still liked me. How wrong was I. So, as had been said before, don't put yourself in that situation
AnBeLa Posted May 16, 2004 Posted May 16, 2004 don't sleep with him!! i was in a similar situation (we broke up, i loved him, he didn't feel the same) we ended up sleeping together one more time and that broke my heart more than if i hadn't. all my feelings came back and he was just like, oops i guess we shouldn't have done that. it sucked and it was painful. even if you want one last time with him it will probably be too painful for you. don't think that sex, even great sex, can make a person love you or wan to come back to you. good luck
MESO Posted May 17, 2004 Posted May 17, 2004 Of Course this guy is still attracted to you.... He still wants to have sex? wow what guy doesnt....WOw there has never been an easier target than the girl you just dumped who would do anything to get back with you.... This is gonna mean one thing to him and for you its going to mean so much more.... I know he was prolly a great boyfriend and he is a great person but i dont understand any other reasons why he would do this besides wanting sex... Wow i just dont understand what most guys think.... It scares the hell out of me that my ex-girlfreind who dumped me wants to go out in the world and be with guys like this...it seems like every guy i talk is the same way....i jsut dont understand
chubachoop Posted May 17, 2004 Posted May 17, 2004 Dont give this guy what he wants! he says he has no feelings for you, but hes physically attracted to you, so this one night your together he will just use you for sex. Youll be upset because you do still have feelings for him. Dont evn meet him just tell him no thanks, the relationship is over, you dont want to spend the night with him.
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