JW1982 Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 I'm in a bit of a dilema, so I hope you all can offer some advice... I just got out of a 5 year relationship about a month ago. It was emotionally abusive, he cheated, made me broke, and i'm generally thrilled to be out, despite the fact that the ex is still trying to garner sympathy from me. As a result, the whole thing has left me pretty drained. I'm seeing a therapist regularly for the first time in my life, and my MD put me on anti-anxiety meds on an as-needed basis for these panic attacks i've been having since the break up. I've recently recieved interest from a man I know from this softball team i play on. We've been freinds and teamates for over a year now. When I met him, he was married with a young son. I've spent a lot of time with him over the past year, carpooling to long trips, etc. We've had exremely long talks (at that time totally freindly) and shared a lot about our personal lives. When i first broke up w/ my ex, and told him about what a hard time i was having. He confided in me that he had been going through a divore for the past 9 months but did not want to tell anyone about it. Since then we've sort of bonded. Our conversations have overflowed to phone/text. The past 2 weeks, it seems that...as if out of nowhere, we both just decided to be romantically interested in each other. He's an amazing guy, i've always liked him and respected him very much, but we always knew each other as in a relationship...now it seems that something is growing between us. I'm OBVIOUSLY not ready for anything right now. I don't know how he feels about himself, but It's definitely too soon for me. At this point, nothing has happened. It's obvious we really like each other, but we haven't exactly discussed it. I know this guy really well. he's a catch, and is beautiful inside and out. But man....I'm just so battered right now. I would only end up hurting him. Plus if things go awry, i will still have to see him and work with him for softball! akward.... So what do i do here? Continue a friendship only association with this man until i'm ready?? I'd like to date other people at some point and just be single for a while before jumping into a relatioship and to be honest I think he should do the same. But i don't want to write him off completely forever. I see potential between us, and i just wish this would have come to light later on. One more issue.... he is 13 years older than me ( i am 30 he is 43). We've always gotten along great as freinds and age has never made it hard for us to have a great time together, so i don't see why this would make a difference...but i thought I'd mention it. Thank you!!!
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