LSChic Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 I'm just curious what you all think of this. I think it's a fantastic idea, like a trial period for marriage. I think it's even good for people who have lived together before marriage because, it seems for some reason marriage changes the tone of the relationship even if you've lived together. http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/44724855#.TpLsTFn1p2E
xxoo Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 I think I'd be annoyed if I had to do more paperwork every 2 years But it is "opt in", and couples can still opt for the lifetime variety marriage, so that seems reasonable to me. A series of those 2 year-contracts, though, still adds up to many years of shared finances, property, and children. I wonder, do you essentially renew a "pre-nup" with each contract? It seems that would get very difficult as the invested years add up. A shared life is messy to divide, whether you are married or not.
JaneyAmazed Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 I'm just curious what you all think of this. I think it's a fantastic idea, like a trial period for marriage. I think it's even good for people who have lived together before marriage because, it seems for some reason marriage changes the tone of the relationship even if you've lived together. http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/44724855#.TpLsTFn1p2E For many years, I would have been against this. Since witnessing the divorce of my parents and others that are close to me, I do not think this is a bad idea at all. Actually, based on some of the weddings I've attended in the last few years, two years too long. I just wonder what happens if one person wants to renew and the other doesn't.
carhill Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Given today's society, it might be a good idea. Sure, splitting up is still messy, but there would be a de-facto pre-nup at the front end and no lawsuit to prosecute at the back end if no joy. I just wonder what happens if one person wants to renew and the other doesn't. There's no meeting of the minds and the contract expires.
OliveOyl Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 I LOVE the idea. I've thought before that society should have this (although my vote goes for 5-year contracts). Awesome idea.
Radagast Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 If marriages are required by society, this is a better idea than most.
giotto Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 mmm.... great for fuelling insecurity in kids... what if mummy and daddy divorce next year? Just a silly idea and it contradicts the concept of marriage itself.
xxoo Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 mmm.... great for fuelling insecurity in kids... what if mummy and daddy divorce next year? Just a silly idea and it contradicts the concept of marriage itself. Good point. Not to mention, renegotiating a marriage contract every couple years, as assets and debts mount up, could be the undoing of some very good marriages How awful to sit down again and again to consider, "who gets what if we split up?"
giotto Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Good point. Not to mention, renegotiating a marriage contract every couple years, as assets and debts mount up, could be the undoing of some very good marriages How awful to sit down again and again to consider, "who gets what if we split up?" I agree... it's totally unworkable and it would make married and family life hell...
zengirl Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I don't like the idea. I wouldn't feel like I was married, if it were only for 2 years, and to renew it constantly? Sounds awful. I think a prenup is a fine idea (though I'd want the prenup itself to expire after, say, 10 years, personally, because by that time the idea of separate stuff doesn't really apply anymore in most marriages I see that last that long----great personal wealth being the exception, but I don't expect to have or marry anyone who has great personal wealth), but the idea of constantly renewing a marriage? Well, it just makes marriage something other than what it should be: a permanent union. There are already ways around the permanence of marriage (divorce) and plenty of other impermanent unions; why try to FORCE things to be impermanent? Anyway, I wouldn't do it. For me, it's regular marriage, the kind that should be for life, or none at all.
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