fortyninethousand322 Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 After a long string of no-replies, I decided to take a break from online dating. The process just felt like too much work and was too frustrating with little to no reward. I have decided to give it a second shot, but I think I'd like some advice on how to actually use it adequately to get some positive results (at the very least a few dates I think would be a reasonable goal). What I did the first time around: -searched for women in my age range who had at least one thing in common with me -read their entire profile -wrote a medium length email asking a question or making a remark about something she mentioned in her profile, a short introduction and maybe another remark or two. In other words I didn't write a short "hey how are you?" type of email or even a universal template email The Results: -Very low response rate (about 1%). No response to any email since mid-March. -Two dates with one girl back in February. The girl went incognito after initially agreeing to date #3. That was the only girl who agreed to meet in person. -One additional girl added me on facebook after exchanging a few emails. We chatted a bit on facebook (mostly about football) but she said she was looking for someone from her own background (Muslim) so nothing came of that. Quite frankly I have no idea whether or not I should even continue to do OLD. Throughout my daily travails I really don't meet too many women so I kind of feel like OLD can be a way to meet women but I've read very divergent opinions on this on LS. I'm willing to give OLD another shot though. Any ideas/advice/critique of my approach?
Pasttense Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 (edited) 1. Post a few of your emails (deleting the name of the person). 2, Discuss what you say about yourself in your profile. Edited October 10, 2011 by Pasttense
johnnyk Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 Problem might be in your profile dude. Post it here so we can dissect it. What I gather from my experience so far with one online dating site (OkCupid) is that getting responses from girls you're attracted to is a hit or miss. I believe there are more to far more single men than women on most, if not, all popular sites. The ratio varies with age bracket. You have to figure that if you find one girl attractive, then there are probably 50 other guys who do too. This probably means you DO need to start diversifying.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 I let this thread die originally because we had the troll attack the same night I posted it so I didn't want the thread to be trolled. Now that everything appears safe, those who would like to see my profile send me a PM and I'll send you a link to my profile. I appreciate any help you guys can give me.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 Perhaps I should start a new thread?...
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