iamjaxcolon Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 Im trying online dating. Thing is I'm trying to wait to have sex until I'm married. I want to avoid complications that sometimes arise. I'm torn as to whether I should be straightforward and mention that in my profile or wait until the guy gets to know me and then decide whether he wants to keep pursuing things after I tell him. I'm afraid that if they see that on my profile it will frighten them away before they even get to know me. I will put on my profile that I am not looking for a hook up. I don't want to mislead anyone but I don't want to chase them away either.
Johnny85 Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 I don't understand your question! I suppose you're waiting till you get married for religious reasons. So why don't you just find/target guys with compatible values? Perhaps joining a christian dating site would be preferrable in your case as you weed out all the "sinners." lol Are you part of a church group? If you're not looking for a religious guy, then I would say you're in for a treat. Good luck:p
january2011 Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 I would mention what you are looking for and not what you are not looking for. If someone searches "hook-ups", your profile will come up in the search, The system is not intuitive enough to guess that the person doesn't want anyone who puts "no hook-ups" in their profile unless they've specifically entered that as a search term. Also put in that you are looking for a long-term relationship. And don't tick the boxes for intimate encounters and short-term relationship. Guys will probably ignore these if they like the look of your picture, but you can filter at your end if they send you a message that is too sexual. If you feel comfortable bringing it up during the messaging stage, you could ask how a guy feels about sex before marriage. It's important to you, but I'm not sure it's a question I'd ask right off the bat because it brings sex into the equation right at the beginning and I feel that's too early to be talking about sex unless an intimate encounter is on the cards. I'd probably wait 3-10 messages down the line depending on how well I'd gotten to know them in that time. I might even wait until I've met the person.
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