Anonymous1338 Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 I told this girl I liked her when I had lunch with her 2 weeks ago, and at the time I am sure that she liked me back. I couldn't do anything last weekend, and when I texted her asking if she had any plans and whether or not she wanted to something this weekend, she didn't respond. She's been treating me differently, like any other casual acquaintance instead of how she used to act around me. Whenever I'm with her and make her laugh, she gets so happy, then gets sad and goes away. I don't know if I hurt her by waiting so long to ask her out and she thought I was toying with her, im not sure. I need to fix this, and I'd love to do it today. I just want to know she's mine... =/ I was just sitting with her, but she went to a different floor in the library for a study group. I'm thinking of asking her to come back when she's done so we can talk, but I don't know what to say and I'm afraid I'll screw it up. I don't know where to start...
Johnny85 Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 Whatever you do, please keep it light and fun. Do not set ultimatums or be too serious - that will scare her off faster than a heart beat!!!
Author Anonymous1338 Posted October 9, 2011 Author Posted October 9, 2011 Whatever you do, please keep it light and fun. Do not set ultimatums or be too serious - that will scare her off faster than a heart beat!!! Understandable. I just don't know where to begin/what to say/ or what is even going on...
thatone Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 so ask her. "what's going on here? we dating or just friends? i am attracted to you, so tell me"
The Outlaw Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 Just apologize to her or at least ask her what's going on with her. As has already been said, don't come across as being too serious, or it'll scare her off. Just ask her how she is and what she's been up to-then ask her if she wants to hang out later.
Author Anonymous1338 Posted October 10, 2011 Author Posted October 10, 2011 How can I apologize for something I don't know what I may or may not have done? I guess I'll just ask her ("Did I do something wrong by you in the last week", "Do you like me as more than a friend? Cause I still have feelings for you.", and if the stars have aligned properly so far, I'm not quite sure how to ask her to go steady/ be my girlfriend.....
Author Anonymous1338 Posted October 10, 2011 Author Posted October 10, 2011 No thanks. Sex isn't even on my mind. I just genuinely like her for who she is. The fact that she is cute is just a bonus.
johnnyk Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 Sounds like a girl I went on a date with last week. You sound young and seem patient with this. I don't have the patience for girls like this. She sounds insecure and unsure of what she wants. That's probably why she's behaving like you never told her you liked her. She also probably doesn't realize she's making you confused. At this point, you should get her alone and give her a kiss, without making it awkward of course. Then all your questions will be answered.
Author Anonymous1338 Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 So..she basically said I didn't do anything wrong, and we're still friends. Not exactly a proper answer, but I can take a hint. I somehow lost her in 14 days. Eh, hurts but I'll get over it. I'm just trying to not think about it, can't get hurt if you abandon all hope.
Johnny85 Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Hey man! Sorry to hear about this girl! I would not have put her on the spot like you did (especially not asking her if you did anything wrong, for it lowered your value tremendously). Dating should be fun and mutual; she probably felt pressured into something by you. Have patience, especially early on in the dating process.
Author Anonymous1338 Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 Hey man! Sorry to hear about this girl! I would not have put her on the spot like you did (especially not asking her if you did anything wrong, for it lowered your value tremendously). Dating should be fun and mutual; she probably felt pressured into something by you. Have patience, especially early on in the dating process. I actually never asked her if she liked me. I just asked hernif everything was fine between us and that I liked her and it was fine if she didn't feel the same way. Ironically now she isn't giving me the stand-offish attitude and is acting like before which makes me think she doesn't know what she wants. But I'm not going to think much of it anymore, if it's meant to be it will be, whether I worry about it or not.
Johnny85 Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 I actually never asked her if she liked me. I just asked hernif everything was fine between us and that I liked her and it was fine if she didn't feel the same way. Ironically now she isn't giving me the stand-offish attitude and is acting like before which makes me think she doesn't know what she wants. But I'm not going to think much of it anymore, if it's meant to be it will be, whether I worry about it or not. I am in the same boat as you are right now, so I know what you're going through. I wish I had that "if it's meant to be" attitude. hehe
Author Anonymous1338 Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 Wow this is driving me up a wall now. I'll feel fine about it and eep being hopeful while going on about my day, and then I'll remember that dumb night where I could have changed everything and I get really depressed. And at the same time, call me paranoid, but I think she might be falling for another guy....who just happens to be a friend of mine... I'm losing my cool, and it sucks.
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