amythan Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 Hi, One week ago I went out with some friends of mine and this guy came with them. I liked him, he is cute and very laid back. He lives close to my place and we discovered we like the same places so we talked about going out some day after work. Then things went messy because we were too drunk and i cannot even say how we went to his apartment. We had sex, awesome and weird at the same time because he didn't kiss me. Then he said i want you gain and me, stupid said i am going home. It was because i felt drunk, i got insecure, he didn't kiss me and i do not know ... i just wanted to sleep. It was not because of the casual sex, i do not have a problem with this. My friends teased him the day after and he just said i wanted her to stay and she didn't, i do not understand why. So i left in a rush and we didn't talk that much or even exchange numbers. But i like the guy. It is not i want a relationship or nothing but i just would like to see him again. I could contact him and i would do if he was not a friend of my friends. I do not want being the subject of conversation, and if he doesn't want to see me it would be awkward. Also he is much younger than me and this makes me feel a bit insecure. If he was an stranger i wouldn't care at all about being rejected. He is organizing a halloween party and i am going so maybe i can wait then and see how he reacts .. Maybe he thinks it was just ONS, or he thinks i am crazy, or he thinks i am not interested ... I do not know, what would you do ?? Thanks !!!!!
thatone Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 talk to him. tell him what you told us, see what he says.
Pierre Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 So i left in a rush and we didn't talk that much or even exchange numbers. But i like the guy. It is not i want a relationship or nothing but i just would like to see him again. You are a very clever woman. Not having any expectations is a good way to not be disappointed in the future.
D-Lish Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 Starting odd a relationship with sex isn't generally the best way to start a relationship. If you aren't into anything serious, then by all means, reach out and tell him how you feel, but a lot of men won't respect a woman that gives up sex on the first date.
Author amythan Posted October 10, 2011 Author Posted October 10, 2011 No, I do not have expectations. I do not even know him that well ! I just like him and in any case i am not really looking to have a relationship, even if i am not against either. I know that sleeping with someone the first day it is not a great way to start a relationship. I guess because it creates a false intimacy and it kills much of the excitement of starting with someone. But if he loses respect for me, this is a different thing. Then i guess it is me who is not interested. We were two there and what it is good for him, it is good for me. I had relationships which lasted many years and started in bed. But maybe, it is because of the type of people i use to date or it is an europe thing .. I do not know. One thing i didn't like it was the fact he didn't kiss me, but maybe some people to that if it is just casual. I do not know. I realize it sounds childish but my friend works with his friend so if i want to contact him she has to ask his friend for the number .. too many people involved. But given my reaction he is well entitled to think i am not interested at all. I am not saying he is, maybe he is not. The thing is if he is not interested it is fine but i do not want everyone to know i am contacting him if he really does not want to see me again ! I would feel like a clingy girl who does not get what a ons means ... But anyway i like him and i would like to see him again Just that, nothing more. So I am still confused about what to do.
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