sweetenough Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 Hey everyone, So to cut a long story short (or as short as it can be) I was great friends with a guy for about two months- he's been in a relationship for about a year and a half now, and was having some issues to do with it. One day he came to me and got some things off his chest like- their constant arguments, breaking up/making up, whether he still loves her etc. and I offered him advice and told him to stick at it. Later that night he admitted that if he were single, he would want to be in a relationship with me- shocked was an understatement when he told me, but momentarily after I realized that all along I'd felt the same way. But of course, it's not happily ever after. We pretty much forgot this instance and carried on being best friends, but this made it so much worse- because every day I've fallen for him more. His relationship is still failing, but he won't end it because he is been diagnosed with depression and doesn't want to make the wrong decision because of his medical state. Him and some other friends stayed at my apartment last month after a night out, and three of us shared a bed (me in the middle, him and another friend) and as soon as the lights were out, he was cuddling me whispering how sorry he was about everything (because I was 'waiting' for him to end it with her) It was extremely intimate but nothing happened, we almost kissed but stopped just in time. Last night, the same people crashed at mine- and the whole process was repeated. I'm going crazy out of my mind, I don't know what to do. We go to the same college so seeing him is unavoidable. He's also one of my best friends and we have the same mutual friends- so we're always out leisurely together. I've tried to move on- I had a thing for another guy, so we had a small fling for a few weeks but it didn't work. I couldn't stop thinking about him.I've tried distance but it's impractical and makes me miss him more. I've tried ending it, but he tells me to wait. I think I've fallen in love with him and I can't find a way out! Please help?
fooled once Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 You know he is not leaving his other relationship, right? He has no need to because what she isn't giving him, you are. He is playing on your emotions. You guys are in college. You will have several more boyfriends before finding "the one". No sense in getting all wrapped up in some guy who has a girlfriend. I am sure none of us will be able to get you to see that your infatuation with him won't get him to leave his girlfriend. This guy gets the best of both worlds, two women to tell him how great he is.
Author sweetenough Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 Thanks for replying, I know he's not leaving her the fact that he told me he wants to just be friends kinda put the stamp on it at last... at least I can move on for good now and find someone available and who won't mess me about!
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