LoveandSuch Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 I am asking this because I believe many hookup or date, and might enter committed relationships, but they are not really into one another as much as they think, it is more just for companionship and becomes comfortable. I rarely encounter someone that I really connect with instantaneously, like a huge chemical reaction. I might meet someone and it's a slight crush or a maybe, possibility. I feel I have met someone and I can sense they feel the same way, an instant connection. Mirror one another in taste from jewelry, fashion sense, and all else! If all fails with all the intensity, it still felt good to just have that rush being close to someone. It does not happen that often.
Author LoveandSuch Posted October 9, 2011 Author Posted October 9, 2011 Also when I mentioned close what I meant was that even with little or no interaction when around one another, you can sense many others around you sensing the connection, even though one has not yet been cemented.
stillafool Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 Of course, but if that connection doesn't evolve into a relationship; having experienced it, you will forever feel as if you are missing something. Maybe it is best to have never felt that passion if you don't end up with that person.
Author LoveandSuch Posted October 9, 2011 Author Posted October 9, 2011 Of course, but if that connection doesn't evolve into a relationship; having experienced it, you will forever feel as if you are missing something. Maybe it is best to have never felt that passion if you don't end up with that person. I know this sucks...it may almost be better to not have met someone like this...you are right! Have you experienced this?
snug.bunny Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 On the first date? Nope. As a matter of fact, I have read that if a woman feels an immediate intense connection/attraction when first meeting someone, she should run in the opposite direction.
snug.bunny Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 Interesting. Why's that? Probably because the "insta attraction" clouds one's judgment, especially if there is an instant/initial strong sexual attraction.
snug.bunny Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 On the first date? Nope. As a matter of fact, I have read that if a woman feels an immediate intense connection/attraction when first meeting someone, she should run in the opposite direction. Actually I just recalled, I did have that intense attraction on a first date once. He was a jerk, which I discovered after our second date. I had recently come out of a LTR, so I didn't care that he was a jerk, and still continued to date him. It ended after a night I went out with him and a group of friends, one of my friends that was with us, told me she saw him making out with some random girl while I was in the restroom. She told me this a few days afterwards. So, that was the end of that.
stillafool Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I know this sucks...it may almost be better to not have met someone like this...you are right! Have you experienced this? Yes and in some ways I wish I hadn't. You think you may find that connection again but that's not always so. You may find love and be content but somehow the feeling you felt with that person forever haunts you.
skylarkjv Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I had an instant connection recently. I had seen the girl before, and had actually danced with her before. But we ended up running into each other again, and bam - instant connection. We've been seeing each other for about a month now.
FrustratedStandards Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Yes, but unfortunately he was married with kids.
Tybalt Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 This has definitely happened to me. I put a "yellow light" (meaning caution) on that kind of intense attraction, for as stated by another poster, your judgment can become very clouded by that connection. The last thing I'd want is to bond with someone or get convinced by chemistry that we are "meant to be" if they don't satisfy basic must-have's for a long term, successful relationship. I have had the experience of getting into a relationship with someone I felt that way about, and ending up hurt badly and wiser with the knowledge that such connections aren't "all that." I've also had the attraction start to fade when the incompatibilities became undeniable. Conversely, I've had attraction build with people that showed what a great relationship prospect they were. So, while I would like physical attraction present, I'm not as hung up about that "incredible connection" aspect because I know it only relates to one component of what makes a good relationship.
Gypsie Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Of course, but if that connection doesn't evolve into a relationship; having experienced it, you will forever feel as if you are missing something. Maybe it is best to have never felt that passion if you don't end up with that person. Totally agree! In that situation right now. Grr. It sux after having a taste of what it is like as well. Only to have it end because the timing was not right between the two of you. Sigh.
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