Author daphne Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 Younger men do have a way of keeping you on your toes. I'm 35, my lover is 26, and he totally lights my fire. I used to reject younger men completely. But now I am giving them a shot, and having a blast so far. We went to this really fun arts event this weekend, and found ourselves dancing and jumping around like silly teenagers to some loud, fun bands. I have fun regularly, but I haven't had such a carefree blast in ages. I also bumped into this older guy there who I went on a couple of dates with a while back, and he seemed jealous. Lol. It's the incessant stream of testosterone... I wish I hadn't made an argument against dating the guy closer to my age. It's funny how bitter guys that are your age come across when they find out you're dating someone younger. They like the double standard, and having a bit of power in that way. Also, if you weren't interested in them it kind of pisses them off that you have other options that might (well ARE) be better than them. There's this feeling they have that as a female over 32, you should know your options are limited and your age is a huge liability. That at some point, even if you would have never considered them before, you had better start now because no one else will consider you over a 20 something. Which, I have found to be amusing and inaccurate.
Author daphne Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 I blame our culture in the US. There's no appreciation for the intellectual types. Those people have to settle for some sort of work that isn't rewarding to them, and as a result you'll never know where to find them. Interestingly, this guy is somewhat intellectual for an American. umm, yeah pretty much. not necessarily a FWB, but if he's offering to fix things around your house he's making it pretty obvious that he doesn't just want to be friendly. i've met women that wound up with a whole house remodel for free just by having a FWB with a contractor. bought an antique piano from one a couple years ago that had a poor guy and his whole crew working in her house for free. Wow, I think I've picked the wrong guy. If it wasn't prostitution, I'd advertise for a home reno bf on an online site. in that i would be letting the crazies (scientologists, closet gay models/actors, one goal, etc) pretend to be normal while i go home to a miserable relationship of appearances?! nevermind, that was a terrible idea . Don't be hating on Oprah. Ultra liberals with flakey, unsubstantiated notions need love too.
Author daphne Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 Ok hear this. Financially, it's clever to do the following thing. 1. Gain the Swiss nationality, fall under its income tax system. 2. Start a company, but register it in Ireland to have your company fall under its corporate tax system. (Like Google did for its EU division) 3. Do business or trade with companies in other EU nations to make use of the 0% intra-EU VAT tax rate. That way you pay relatively little taxes. Sorry for deviating from the topic. Ok, I didn't like the thread jacking but damn. Must find Swiss man to marry.
Author daphne Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 I have the same problem. I'm 32 and live in a college town. I look very young for my age and all the 20 somethings try to pick me up. While they are very attractive, what kind of relationship would I have with a college kid? Not a very good one. Although my last relationship was with a 37 year old, he wasn't much for relationships either. He was from California and only here in NY for a short time. He wasn't looking for a long term thing. Also he was bipolar and not on meds. Not an easy situation. He ended up losing his sh*t and cheating on me. I dumped him. Needless to say it's not easy dating in your 30's. Sigh. No it's not. Anyway you can move somewhere else? Or meet the professors at least? I envy the kids I meet that met in college and are starting out new lives together and get married. I wish I had been a lot more social in school, but I spent my time studying the sh** out of my books and making summa cum laude. Work, school, everything else took a priority. Damnit.
Author daphne Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 This forum makes it seem like all women are with men 10 years older than them! That's simply not true. Most of my family and friends (except a couple of them off the top of my head) are married/ in a relationship with someone close to their own age and my friends in their thirties often date/get in a relationship with younger men probably because there are not many older men available. It tends to be more prevalent (men 10 years older than women) in larger cities and in Hollywood land (i.e. everything you see in the movies.) I'm guessing you live in a moderate to smaller town where the ratio of women to men is probably in teh women's favor. I have considered moving to a small town and getting a harem of men.
Nexus One Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 I'm guessing you live in a moderate to smaller town where the ratio of women to men is probably in teh women's favor. I have considered moving to a small town and getting a harem of men. On the East Coast there are more single women than single men in general. On the West Coast the reverse is the case. Source (2006 census): http://bit.ly/gONwhc For a single guy it would statistically make sense to move to the East Coast and for a single woman it would statistically make sense to move to the West Coast.
january2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 I envy the kids I meet that met in college and are starting out new lives together and get married. Hmm, yes about that. I think quite a few of those end up going through infidelity, separation and divorce. Or perhaps I just have a very skewed view based on some of the fora I've frequented! I don't think there are anymore guarantees in relationships other than they will end at some point whether through the death of one/both partners or for some other reason. I suspect that 'life partners' will become a rare and precious thing. It's something I hope for but I don't think I can expect it, unfortunately. You might be lucky to meet a guy in your late 30s/early 40s and spend the rest of your lives together - hopefully, you'll both have financial stability and have gotten the experience of playing the field out of your system. As well as the maturity to know what you want and the life experience to build a successful relationship. But again, no guarantees.
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