loveburden Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 i met this amazing guy. he was cute, friendly and made me feel sexy in a way i have never felt before. i spent a night at his house, i so badly wanted to have sex with him but i couldn't go through it as i have recently broken up with my ex ( my ex was my first so i was sorta nervous and i suppose still holding on) this guy and i hung out a few times, it was very flirtatious. i ended up staying a second night on my last night in town and he wanted to have sex again but i refused even though i wanted to. but now that i am no longer in my home town and back home i want to sleep with him very badly. the guy told me he wanted me badly and that the more i say no the more he wants me. i just don't want him to think im a slut but now i really want to, its been so long for me, i think i need it. i know this guy is coming here in two weeks, should i ask if we can meet up for sex or is that to forward? i need help... guys perspective please?
january2011 Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 What do you want to come out of this situation? Do you just want to have sex with him and don't expect a relationship or even to see him again afterwards? Are you looking for a friends with benefits situation? If you want a relationship, then I'd say it may be too soon to get into one via this route. Since you recently broke up with your ex, it's likely that your emotions are all over the place and you're vulnerable. Any signs of affection/attraction from someone half decent has you wound up into this frenzy. It's addictive. It's possible that I could be wrong and not only is there mutual attraction but there's mutual interest to pursue something more, including the potential for a relationship. You know yourself. Are you ready? If you think that you need to scratch the itch and don't care about the fallout, then I'd urge you to go in with your eyes wide open and play safe.
Author loveburden Posted October 9, 2011 Author Posted October 9, 2011 i don't want a relationship, i was in one for way to long. i actually hate men at the moment. this guy was the expection though , i don't no why. i have feelings for him , i don't want to but i am really attracted to him. i sort of got jealous when i saw him chatting up another guy, he came up to after that and was being all flirty and i just did not flirt back and told him that i did not want to be screwed around and that if he did not like me to tell me, he said that he liked me alot but was just in party mode. looking back at it now, i was out of line, had no right to be jealous. it is what it is and i like it. its a sexual relationship and im okay with that. i mean the sexual tension was very intense but when it came to it i backed out. the thought of someone else having me just freaked me out. i am inlove with my ex yes but i want to forget and move on, explore something else. be someone else. i am someone else when im with this guy. i know i like him and that i could get hurt again by sleeping with him but at the moment thats a risk i would take to forget my ex, maybe then my ex will realise that i don't want be manipulated by him anymore. my ex has this power over me and he knows that, i want to break it.
Author loveburden Posted October 9, 2011 Author Posted October 9, 2011 saw him chatting up another girl *****
january2011 Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 I would advise you not to go for it. You are doing this to get back at your ex, which suggests that you don't think very highly about yourself right now and you're giving your body awayas though it's not worth anything except for revenge. You're in a very vulnerable position and the other guy is probably taking advantage of that to get another notch on his belt. In addition, he is not focused on you - he's trying it on with multiple people. I'd be concerned for my sexual health. Please take some time out and get out of these toxic situations. Go be with friends/family who love you.
thatone Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 you're not going to forget by sleeping with someone else. nor are you going to permanently change. there's nothing wrong with sex with this guy if that's what you want, but you are putting way too much expectation on it. no one else can change you. if you want to be different you have to go do that on your own.
Author loveburden Posted October 10, 2011 Author Posted October 10, 2011 its not that i think that sleeping with him will change me. its just my ex keeps contacting me, maybe if i sleep with someone else he will leave me alone? i know its not a very good reason but im over my ex and i want him out of my life, he has put immense guilt over me because he found out that this guy and i were sort of seeing eachother. each time i tell him that i don't want to talk to him he tells me that he will always love me and will never forget me. each time i push him away he guilts me with those words. when he found out that he is still the only guy i have slept with he asked if we could have sex one last time when i said no he said that it was fine , that he just wants to hold me to sleep one last time. but he does not want a relationship with me again because i was seeing that guy. i just want to move on from my ex but he won't let me. he manipulates me so much. i just want to stop. im over the games.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 do you want to come The Magic 8 Ball says: "Signs point to 'Yes' "
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