lvm Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 (edited) here's the background on my breakup: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t289308/ i've been in nc (or technically lc since i will respond to my ex when i hear from him, but always keep it short... each time he's saying "please let us talk again soon") pretty much since our breakup. i've been doing really good- hanging out with friends, starting to date casually, etc, etc... generally getting my life back on track and feeling content with where i am at. i still have a tremendous amount of feelings for my ex, but i've adjusted to the reality that he is not in my life. though it has been incredibly hard, it's been the best option for me. a few weeks ago, i had a quasi run-in with my ex and the new girl (who looks exactly like me, is in the same profession, etc, etc). i saw a guy staring at me, and looked away.. then when i looked back, the girl he was with was very angry with him and i saw that it was my ex who was staring. i just kinda laughed and went on my way - it was then when i felt the effects of nc over the last four months because i didn't feel any pain... just indifference. a week later, the phone calls started. she had called me a month after we broke up and left me a message that she had "questions". i assumed that she had found out how recently we had broken up (he had told me a week prior that she didn't know) and just ignored it. i've never met her, nor do i have any mutual friends with her. so when i started getting all these missed calls (9 in the course of 4 days), i put two and two together and checked my call log - yup, the same number that she originally called me from in june. she has even tried calling my work, which made for a really uncomfortable conversation with my boss. i am at a loss to what to do! i don't want to talk to her, but can not handle getting all of these phone calls! i haven't told him, as i really didn't want to look like i am trying to cause "trouble"... but it's starting to become really overwhelming especially in my healing because now it is making my head swirl. has anyone else out there had a similar experience? Edited October 9, 2011 by lvm
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