soulm8 Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Is 2 months of daily communication enough time to know if you're willing to be in a relationship vs remaining single? I could've posted in the dating forum, but this is an LDR and I think remaining "single" in an LDR has more significance to it.
january2011 Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 I'm not sure about what you're asking. If you know yourself, then you are the one who makes the decision about whether you want to be in a relationship versus whether you would rather remain single. It's not really a matter of how much time you've been communicating. It's about knowing yourself, what you want and how you feel about the other person. And whether those feelings are reciprocated or not.
Confusedbroken Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 Ask yourself this, when you think about who you want by your side, who you want to kiss and spend time with. If it's That person then you should decide to be in a relationship, if you can see yourself with someone else then just stay single!
Author soulm8 Posted October 10, 2011 Author Posted October 10, 2011 Yes, that's what I thought. I've brought up the subject a few times now and he's not ready to claim me as his gf. He assures me that we're building a potential relationship, exclusively. Feels odd and it's keeping me on the aloof side.
Confusedbroken Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 I know exactly how you feel, my bf left over seas and broke up with me but we kept talking and I kept telling him that it feeling like we are in a relationship and I'm in like denial, he kept saying the same thing that he was not ready to call me his gf again, well I had to finally give him an ultimatum about it because I felt like I was in denial about everything and couldnt keep doing that to myself, he then gladly took me as his gf!! But that was 9 months ago, now we have the more serious issue, which I think he was trying to avoid all along! In your case though it seems like he wants to be sure, cuz long distance relationships are not easy at all!!! It's like the hardest thing I've been through!!
Author soulm8 Posted October 10, 2011 Author Posted October 10, 2011 I do believe him that he just wants to be sure. It's just hard (on my ego?!)... I'd feel so much more secure going forward, with the title. He knows where I stand on the issue and is apologetic. He seems to think that once things become physical I'll dump him. So, in a way, it feels like he's expecting me to trust him, but he doesn't have to trust me.
Confusedbroken Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 It sounds to me like he's trying to get over the trust issue before he puts a label. I would give it more time, if you stir the pot too much then there would be more of a chance that it won't work.
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