k100danny Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Basically weve been broken up about 6 weeks, lots of things happened toward the end of the break up but nobody cheated ect, i was jealous and pushed her away and i think this made her think she couldnt meet my needs. anyway, We were very close friends before we got together and i really fell for her but i understand why we didnt work out , i think. we have tried to be friends ect since splitting and it hasnt really worked out, i would love to be friends in the duture but i still have feelings and i would find it very hard. I was thinking of writing a letter saying all the things i didnt get to say, not asking us to get back together but were i think we went wrong, why we were good and why we werent. express my feelings and that im not over her but i hope we can be friends when i am. Im not asking for her to reply but i would like to say these things to her and i dont think we will get to speak face to face for quite a while and id just like to bring some of those things up. I would like to end it with i still have feelings and miss you but i undertand the way things were we couldnt work, I will have to stay out of contact with you and away from you until i dont feel anything anymore and then hopefully we can build a friendship if that is what we both want. I would like to think she would respect me and not show anyone this letter and that she would then respect my wish to get over her which she has being doing really but i feel i need some type of closure. does this sound like a good idea or a man that just needs to let things go?
TheDovic Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Hey Danny Question: Do you want her back (be honest - not what you think I want to hear!)? If you do then you absolutely must NOT send her a letter because you'll look like a total wuss. Unfortunately women tend to be attracted to strong men who are in control of their emotions. If you do this I promise you she'll believe it to be pathetic!!! Maybe write the letter and don't send it. At least this way you'll put your feelings down on paper which makes them much easier to deal with! If you don't want her back then send it by all means, but I still think she'll not respond positively to it. She'll be likely to feel sorry for you, so you lose your self respect. My point is, this is a lose-lose sitution for you. It won't make her come back, it will cause her to lose attraction for you, you lose your self respect and it could potentially make her feel sorry for you.
Eddie Edirol Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 You need to let her go. Dont write the letter, especially if you think she will show it to people. Youre really looking for a way to contact her again, and hope for some kind of reaction. Dont kid yourself, you really ant to get back with her, and you hope she will change her mind.. But she wont. Your closure comes from you, and all you can do to get that closure is to leave her alone and do not talk to her. Anytime you open up communication with her, you open up the door again, in your mind. theres a coping section here, write what you want to say there, but dont send it to her.
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