inexperienceguy Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Hello, i am looking for some advice. We are both in our 30s and we started chatting back in may this year. Which follow by voice/video chat. We met up last week and enjoy each others company for the 3 days we were together. Now, the problem is she says we are moving to fast and would like time to think about her future. Couple of things about her: She is a workaholic and last November, she ended her 8 year relationship with a guy who lies to her a lot. She says she is not taking him back no matter what and changed her job because he has friends in her old job. I told her how i feel about her and she says she would like time think things through. I said take as much time she likes, i will be here if she needs. And that's pretty much it. She didn't reply to my msn chat and her text reply has been short than normal. Should i go NC expecting the worse? How long should i wait before trying to contact her again?
TheDovic Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 No, but I think you might want to ease off a bit i.e. don't be overbearing telling her how much she means to you if you've only met up once. Just go back to talking for now and keep things very light and friendly!!!
Author inexperienceguy Posted October 8, 2011 Author Posted October 8, 2011 Thankyou for your kind advice. I will lay off a bit and hope i haven't ruined everything..... Finger cross she would speak to me again.
SoulFinger Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 I agree with Dovic but can you tell us in a bit more detail why she is thinking that you guys are moving too fast.Did you ask for more commitment or moving closer together?
Author inexperienceguy Posted October 8, 2011 Author Posted October 8, 2011 When you guys say "give her some time and space" do you guys mean i should stop sending msn chat and just wait for her to get back to me? Is sending text to wish her have a nice day each day too much?
redblack66 Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 She is out of a very long relationship and she probably needs more time. Don't scare her off at the moment. Give her some time and enough space. Get back to being normal. You will have your chance man, don't worry. Do your research on rebound relationships before you burn.
Author inexperienceguy Posted October 9, 2011 Author Posted October 9, 2011 Sent her a text telling her to have a wonderful day back at work. Lets see what happens.
Author inexperienceguy Posted October 9, 2011 Author Posted October 9, 2011 She uploaded a new profile picture on eharmony today since may. I guess that's it. I am heart broken
Author inexperienceguy Posted October 10, 2011 Author Posted October 10, 2011 Here's her reply "Hi, I have not gone back to eharmony, but had my picture updated. I give you my word lets live our life in the next months and i will let you know my decision on Jan 1, 2012. All the best" Any advice?
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