RatsAreCool Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 The person I was seeing cried when he broke it off with me. Unlike the other posters here, I won't deny that it's important that the person shows some emotion. Him crying felt a lot better than him saying "Get out of my car" (which he also did). It does make you feel like they at least cared about you. And that's important, it really is. Don't let anyone tell you it isn't! Because even if a person is totally wrong for you and a total jerk, you still love them, and denying it won't do you any good. (Not that it's an excuse to get back with them, as in my opinion, love is not enough. But it doesn't mean you should deny your love either.) I say that because I'm really done with people telling me that my ex was no good for me. I obviously know that, I'm not an idiot, but that doesn't change my feelings or make me feel better. I assume you feel the same way. Going "What was I thinking?" comes after you get over the person, which isn't now. Unfortunately though, the ex crying doesn't necessarily make you know in your heart that they really cared. If you have a tendency to blame yourself for everything that goes wrong, like me, you will find a way to overlook all evidence to the contrary and believe that they didn't. If I'm not making sense please ask me to explain. If you want me to that is.
SillyS Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 I appreciate the way he ended things with me. He walked in to the apartment, and simply told me it was over and to get out of his life. He gave me a list of things wrong with me, and things that we wanted together that he didn't want anymore. He made me cry, he made me feel horrible. But never showed any feeling towards me. Didn't try to hug me or attempt to make the blow any easier on me. I packed my things, as he laughed with his sister and her friend. Then he played video games, as I cried some more looking for my cell phone. In the end, when I was ready to go, I wished him all the best, told him I loved him and that I'd miss him as he was my best friend as well. He told me, that those type of statements are unnecessary. When I hugged him, he pulled away. It hurt me to see someone that I loved and cared about on so many levels including friend treat me this way. But I'm glad he did. I know where I stand in his eyes, and I know everyday I get a little bit closer to healing from this experience. He isn't the guy for me and I know this because of the way he ended things and his decision to end things.
Buttercup84 Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 The first time he dumped me he was crying , and when he hugged me goodbye he held me tight and put his head on my shoulder ( I was standing on something , he is a lot taller than me ) and sobbed. We did get back together after a day of me begging. The last and final time he just seemed a bit sad but seemed like he just wanted to get it over with. I knew then that he would never take me back.
Buttercup84 Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 I appreciate the way he ended things with me. He walked in to the apartment, and simply told me it was over and to get out of his life. He gave me a list of things wrong with me, and things that we wanted together that he didn't want anymore. He made me cry, he made me feel horrible. But never showed any feeling towards me. Didn't try to hug me or attempt to make the blow any easier on me. I packed my things, as he laughed with his sister and her friend. Then he played video games, as I cried some more looking for my cell phone. In the end, when I was ready to go, I wished him all the best, told him I loved him and that I'd miss him as he was my best friend as well. He told me, that those type of statements are unnecessary. When I hugged him, he pulled away. It hurt me to see someone that I loved and cared about on so many levels including friend treat me this way. But I'm glad he did. I know where I stand in his eyes, and I know everyday I get a little bit closer to healing from this experience. He isn't the guy for me and I know this because of the way he ended things and his decision to end things. Oh I am so so sorry. What a heartless ****.How old is he , 12 ? his sister sounds like a bitch too.
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