LoveNoob Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 How many of you would take an ex-BF/GF back if the ex had been involved with someone else between the break-up and moment of reconciliation? (So no emotional or physical cheating during your relationship with him/her) And with involved i mean anything ranging from make-out sessions, casual one-night-stands, full blown orgy's, a rebound or fling, a couple of dates, a heavy passionate romance, perhaps even a short marriage. Assuming that the reasons for breaking up have been resolved and reconciliation is possible and desired by both parties, where is your limit regarding his/her romantic and sexual activities during the period where you two were not together? What would be the point of no return for you? Discuss, because im very curious what people think about this.
Art_Critic Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 They were with people before you ? Right ? Same difference.. Of course I would go back.. Why would anyone be so short sighted as to believe their ex's world still revolves around them ?
silly_panda Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 If I still have feelings for her then I will take her back...
TLCbear Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 I agree with Art. That's pretty stupid to think like that, furthermore, why would I want to know if my ex have had full blown orgy's or many one night stands.
TLCbear Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 ~~ One day someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anyone else.. ~~ Oh I loveee that saying, lol...didn't noticed it until now. This is my ex to a T. Said he never had a good relationship, even his mother said the same thing and was glad I was in his life, now I actually see why he hasn't had nothing but bad relationships.
ffw Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 How many of you would take an ex-BF/GF back if the ex had been involved with someone else between the break-up and moment of reconciliation? (So no emotional or physical cheating during your relationship with him/her) And with involved i mean anything ranging from make-out sessions, casual one-night-stands, full blown orgy's, a rebound or fling, a couple of dates, a heavy passionate romance, perhaps even a short marriage. Assuming that the reasons for breaking up have been resolved and reconciliation is possible and desired by both parties, where is your limit regarding his/her romantic and sexual activities during the period where you two were not together? What would be the point of no return for you? Discuss, because im very curious what people think about this. Hello Lovenoob, I started a similar thread yesterday. Check this out http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t301279/ Though, its more related to man's point of view.
The_Good_Me Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 To me it would hurt to know she has been with other men. Before me she had only kissed people in school. I was her first love and sexual partner and she is mine. However, even though it would hurt, it would not have any bearing on reconciliation, not to me anyway. Provided I felt the way I do now (very much in love with her still) I would reconcile with my ex if I were convinced that she was in love with me, found me attractive, wanted to make a real go of us and realised that it would take time for us to get back to 100%. Everything else is just pain to get over which I would gladly work on to get back to being happy.
Hatu Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 I recently had sex with my ex of 2 years and she has only been with 1 person since me and is dating him now currently. To be totally honest, it didn't bother me one bit. I never even really thought about it. I was so love drunk off of just being around her again and so happy I could care less. But as stated above, it shouldn't matter. There were people before you so how is that any different if someone came after you? Nowadays, your chances of finding someone who was a virgin and you being the only person they ever had that with is extremely rare. Both genders are having sex wayyyyy earlier than generations before us. Besides, if some time has gone by since you split - typically you've both been with someone new so you're really in the same boat... It's natural to be upset by that if it's quickly after your breakup. But everyone has a past. In fact I think it's important go out and date and try new people on for size because then it shows them how good you were or are. What can be more satisfying than your ex coming back to you because they realized how good of a partner you were after trying it with someone else? I feel like that says a lot about you. If your ex broke up with you and ended things before hooking up with someone new it shouldn't hurt you. That may be hard to understand but a single person is allowed to do those things. If I was single and had sex with a chick I wouldn't expect any of my ex's to be hurt by me doing so. Now you definitely don't have to like it or approve but if your ex is following nature and moving on as we all do - what's the harm in that? One of my friend's Mom's told me to not take back my ex if the chance ever came around because I shouldn't want her since someone else had her since me. I personally think that's retarded because her husband had god knows how many women before they got married. If it's a good pieces of ass, it's a good piece of ass.
balexander26 Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 Well it depends because if you were still talking about fixing things and getting back together then that is more like taking a break. Which I consider that you are still together. So I don't know if I could after that. Now if we had called if off and then started talking again and wanted to get back together then I would say it was ok.
aerogurl87 Posted October 10, 2011 Posted October 10, 2011 They were with people before you ? Right ? Same difference.. Of course I would go back.. Why would anyone be so short sighted as to believe their ex's world still revolves around them ? This right here.
Kuite09 Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 I actually started a thread with the same question a couple of weeks back. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t298802/ The thought of him being with someone else kills me but its very true that we were both with other people before we met.
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