psprouse Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 So I really need help. Lastnight was homecoming and my boyfriend decided to escort this girl, I do not know the girl but I think she kind of 'has a thing' for my boyfriend. She sat with me and him before half-time and she got very weird acting around me, and she got up and walked off and my boyfriend followed. And then by half-time during the football game all the couples and escorts walked across the field, after it was over my boyfriend was still linking arms with her and then he put his jacket around her.. By that time I was really worried about her, what if she's more than a friend.. She wouldn't talk to me, and my boyfriend became extremely protective over her. --how do I approach him and ask about this girl, without him getting offended? --how do I get her to go away? --what do I say to her??
PegNosePete Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 There is only one thing I would say to him. "You're dumped you cheating jerk"
RiverRunning Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 The only reasonable explanation for why he would take her to Homecoming instead of you, OP, is that he asked her before you started going out. In that case, I can see why he wouldn't want to back out. If that ISN'T the case, woah - huge red flag. Why is he putting his coat around this girl? Linking arms with her long after he has to? Something smells fishy here, OP. It's time for a serious talk about the affection he showed her out in public versus you. He probably will get offended. Why? Because it's what young adolescent males who don't want to be challenged about anything they do...do. It's also often an insulted cover for their cheating behavior (i.e., he's turning it back on YOU - 'You think I would cheat? How could you - etc."). Don't say anything to the girl - she isn't your problem. Your boyfriend is. I think it's fair to ask him if anything is going on between the two of them. And keep your eyes open. If this behavior continues after you establish boundaries - i.e., he shouldn't be holding hands/linking arms with her, offering her his coat, etc. - it's time to split. You're still very young. I never had a boyfriend in high school. You'll meet some decent ones once you get out.
PegNosePete Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Jeeze you last 2 posters. WTF? 2 + 2 = ..... ??? It's not rocket science. He likes the other girl. Do not discuss this situation with him. Do not sit around a dinner table and ask what his feelings are. He has made them completely obvious by his ACTIONS. Now go up to him, slap him in the face, throw a drink in his lap and tell him he is dumped. That is the only way to resolve this situation.
bluenightowl Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 You're just going to have to step up the competition. Have you had sex with him yet? If not do so immediately. If you have already had sex let him live out his wildest fantasy and do whatever he wants, no matter his sick and/or depraved it may be. And finally, tell him you really want to have a threesome with the other girl. All guys dream about being with two chicks at once so this will make him crazy hot for you. And then when he suggests it to her and she says "no way" she comes off looking like a prudish bitch making you appear even more awesome! For more HotRodney dating tips you can email me at [email protected] this sounds like your wet dream. go back to watching porn and sitting alone by yourself.
bluenightowl Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Jeeze you last 2 posters. WTF? 2 + 2 = ..... ??? It's not rocket science. He likes the other girl. Do not discuss this situation with him. Do not sit around a dinner table and ask what his feelings are. He has made them completely obvious by his ACTIONS. Now go up to him, slap him in the face, throw a drink in his lap and tell him he is dumped. That is the only way to resolve this situation. This sounds a bit harsh, but it does seem like he likes her. Why would you tolerate him putting his jacket around her. That's a huge sign he likes her, but worse, you were there to see it and he know that. I would dump him.
nofool4u Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 psprouse oh this girl is more than a friend, you can bank on that.
PegNosePete Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 I don't understand relationships? Really? Well I'll tell you what I do understand. The couple don't share squat if he is going to disrespect her like this. Inviting another girl to the homecoming and spending all his time with her? Going off walking in a field with her, linked arms, and giving her his jacket? I mean seriously, you have got to be kidding me. Can you please give me just ONE possible reason that he could possibly have for doing that, other than HE LIKES HER MORE? There is a time for talking and a time for dumping. This is the latter. In fact if the OP does dump him, he'll probably say "what? I thought I dumped you at the homecoming?"
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