fuzzbella Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 When you start no contact do they deserve a reason or to be told what your doing or do you just do it? Its been 5 months since we broke up and for those months he's lead me on, kept me on the back burner just waiting for him to say he wants me again. And last night i think that was enough to push me over the edge and now im finally ready for no contact and finally ready to get over him. He keeps telling me he still loves me and misses how close we used to be, i have offered him the chance to be with me over and over the chance to work it out, but he always comes up with the excuse of he doesnt know how it would work out, or he feels too guilty and doesnt think he deserves me after leaving me 5 month ago. So last night i asked him to just tell me its over for good but he tells me he cant because he needs me, he wont tell me we are together and wont me its over so its time for me to get over him and move on finally. Do i tell him or just go no contact and let him suffer how i have been? I dont want to tell him because he will persuade me to stay, i dont trust myself.
Buttercup84 Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Just go nc . He had five months to get you back . He does not know what he wants , if he wanted you back he would have done it long ago . You can just email him saying you need to do this and ask him to respect your wishes . He dumped you , he does not deserve a reason . Think about yourself now !
TheDovic Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 He's being selfish, but I think you should tell him. Make it about you for a change, i.e. "I know you need me, but you don't want me and I can't heal while we're still in contact so I can't be part of your life right now, so if you care about me please stop calling and texting me."
Zabs Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Say it but make it your last. Most importantly, stick to what you say or the only learning he will get is that a certain time, a certain way you will cave in. I know this because I have made the same mistake over and over again. I have made a contract with myself about what I am prepared to accept from him or any other man...and for him to protect me from the sidelines is not enough. To try and get me jealous will not work, neither will 3am calls in the am from his private number get me to retaliate. Anger, in my opinion shows two things. Real feelings and intensity. A no no for no contact. Zabs xx
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