RockGuy87 Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 How come one can know that NC is best but cant seem to get themselves to do it or are miserable doing it? To me this is what NC means. Its a double wammy process in the way that it helps move on and get over someone but it also helps with a few cases of the ex coming back. If you go NC you automatically start to heal, whether you see it or not doesn't matter. The change from day to day might be so small you dont notice, but it is there. Hell doesn't keeping NC show a lot of strength and character in itself? How long it takes depends on how well you carry out NC. Each time you break it by contacting or spying, you slow progress and just means it will be longer. It took me about 7 months of NC and help from another girl coming into my life (nothing even happened between us) before I was actually enjoying life again. It can help in the second way by showing your ex a lot about you. Actions speak louder than words. Right? Think about this... Instead of you sitting there wondering if they are thinking of you or if they regret anything . Let them do that instead. If you continue to bombard them with sad little comments or if you try to convince them they messed up, it only has the opposite effect. I think its human nature for people to no matter what find anyway they can to justify their actions. But if you dont contact them, instead of you wondering why they dont care, let them wonder why you are ok with this. Why you arent begging for them back. Its not until they begin to ask those questions do they start to second guess. Let them wonder if YOUR love was actually real. I Know this isnt the case for all situations but maybe some people can get some help from something I just thought about. Dont be that "crazy stalker" who wont go away. It just makes you look worse and therefor justifies their choice. You have to give off that they didnt dodge a bullet, you did. Then they will wonder. Just dont get attached to this because there are the chances they wont think this and they will just continue on their way. But it is still better then coming off as a fool. Trust me ive touched the stove even though i knew it would burn before. Still trying my hardest..... Its not easy I know. Because I wonder everyday if she even thinks about us or misses us. But some things i saw on this site that I was told by people i dont see here anymore are: "If its meant to be, it will be" and "One day you will meet someone that shows you why it didnt work with anyone else" That really helped me.
Zabs Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 hmm..nice quote - how about this one; you can be wrong a million times...you only have to be right once...love that! Zabs xx
TheDovic Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 I think you are right. When I broke up with my girlfriend, I just can't stop thinking about her. I tried a lot of times to have NC but after 10-12 days it would get difficult for me. However finally when I started going out, I met new girls and after a NC of around 3 months. My ex girlfriend contacted me again. She was so desperate to know whether the girl I was hanging out with is my girlfriend or not. I told her she is not yet, but I am seeing her. She was so jealous you could have made it out from the look of her face. It works. Finally we got back together. That's a long story too. Great to see a success story on here. Cheers Gary
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