kiss_andmakeup Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 See thread title. BF's in Vegas for the weekend with guy friends for his friend's birthday. And I'm...not. He's tall & attractive, successful, and outgoing/funny...I'm sure he has gorgeous skanks falling all over him at the high end nightclubs they're going to. He probably just has to pull the doctor card for the panties to drop. I feel like crap. I'm keeping it under wraps...only texting him when he texts me first, and acting happy as a clam so that he can enjoy himself...all the while I'm having an internal freak-out. What if he realizes he can get women way more attractive than me at the drop of a hat. What if he realizes that I'm not even that special, good looking, or interesting. What if he realizes he could be living the dream life of bachelorhood and getting laid by a different beautiful girl every weekend (or this weekend at the very least). Why do I feel this way? It's positively dreadful.
tinktronik Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Girl you need to call some friends and spend the weekend occupied with something other than your thoughts. Then, on Monday morning, call a counselor and start seeing them weekly.
Author kiss_andmakeup Posted October 8, 2011 Author Posted October 8, 2011 Girl you need to call some friends and spend the weekend occupied with something other than your thoughts. Then, on Monday morning, call a counselor and start seeing them weekly. I've arranged a pretty awesome girls' night for tomorrow...partially for fun, partially to keep my mind off things. I'm not doing anything tonight since I work bright 'n early tomorrow. Counselor? Not so sure about that...but thanks for your input. It's appreciated.
january2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 What if he realizes he can get women way more attractive than me at the drop of a hat. What if he realizes that I'm not even that special, good looking, or interesting. What if he realizes he could be living the dream life of bachelorhood and getting laid by a different beautiful girl every weekend (or this weekend at the very least). What if he realises that he doesn't want to be one of these drunken slobs and have women of suspect morals leering all over him and invading his personal space? What if he realises that he's lucky to have you because you would never behave like any of these women? What if he realises that physical intimacy is soulless and empty when you're not experiencing it with the person you love? What if he realises that he's been there, done that and got it out of his system and doesn't want to live that kind of life anymore? What if he realises that he loves you because you love him for him and not his attractive appearance or professional status?
Kinder-Horror Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Oh my gosh I KNOW that feeling so well it actually hurts to read! I have been on both sides of the BF going to Vegas scenario. One one side, I was completely nervous and a wreck. And he completely cheated on me. But he was a HUGE loser who looked good on paper (and in person) and though I was torn up... I am SO glad I am no longer with him. The other BF went. I was completely nervous and a wreck. And he was faithful to be (or the greatest liar in the world). And also found drunken party girls sloppy. And called to tell me how much he wished I was there with him. And I am marrying him next fall. The point is... For every worry you have, there is an opposite possibility. That he could be reminded of you, miss you, think of you... If he realized you aren't that special... then he certainly shouldn't be that special to you either! But he wont realize that. Because he probably cares for you just as much as you care for him. Hang in there. And have a blasty blast tomorrow with your girls.
Appleanche Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 He's probably back or on his way back now, but I'll post anyhow I know exactly how you feel, exactly. And when my bf went to Vegas earlier this year I did just what you did: acted all chipper and fine when I heard from him even though I was totally stressing on the inside. I know he just goes to catch up with his buddies and act let loose for the weekend, but it's still very easy for me to think the worst. I trust him so I just try go with that and not think about all the trouble he "could" get into if he wanted. The truth is, he could cheat anywhere, not just Vegas.
nofool4u Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 What if he realizes he can get women way more attractive than me at the drop of a hat. What if he realizes that I'm not even that special, good looking, or interesting. What if he realizes he could be living the dream life of bachelorhood and getting laid by a different beautiful girl every weekend (or this weekend at the very least). If he is that superficial, then to hell with him (but then again, why is it you are with him?) If he is that shallow, then let him be a dog. He'll be the kind of guy women complain about all the time. Maybe you should have a girls weekend in Vegas after he gets back.
Osiris1234 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 He isn't gonna cheat on you. It seems like girls cheat on guys more when they go to Vegas then the other way around. Really, you have NOTHING to worry about. Trust me.
Farrah Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I live hear I feel like crap. Place is full of whores in every walk of life. Reason why marriages dont last.If he texts you dont text back AT ALL. that will keep his mind on you ,wondering where you are and not the bitches here.It will assure you hes into you even in Vegas.When he comes back tell him you lost your phone. See thread title. BF's in Vegas for the weekend with guy friends for his friend's birthday. And I'm...not. He's tall & attractive, successful, and outgoing/funny...I'm sure he has gorgeous skanks falling all over him at the high end nightclubs they're going to. He probably just has to pull the doctor card for the panties to drop. I feel like crap. I'm keeping it under wraps...only texting him when he texts me first, and acting happy as a clam so that he can enjoy himself...all the while I'm having an internal freak-out. What if he realizes he can get women way more attractive than me at the drop of a hat. What if he realizes that I'm not even that special, good looking, or interesting. What if he realizes he could be living the dream life of bachelorhood and getting laid by a different beautiful girl every weekend (or this weekend at the very least). Why do I feel this way? It's positively dreadful.
Author kiss_andmakeup Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 Sorry for kind of abandoning my thread here; to be honest I'm a little ashamed that I was feeling so insecure. He kept in contact with me consistently during the trip...frequent texts, called me a few times to tell me how much he missed me. During one of the calls he mentioned that his friends were at a strip club so he was going to hang at the casino...I told him not to be silly, he should go with them, and that I hoped he wasn't hanging back on account of me. He said while he appreciated my saying so, it was more of a matter of it being a waste of time & money to him. While strip clubs were really quite low on my list of worries, it was nice to hear him say that. I picked him up at the airport on Sunday and we've spent every subsequent day together. There's no way I'll ever know for certain what did and did not happen while he was gone, but that's okay. I've made the internal decision to trust him since he has never given me a reason not to.
nofool4u Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I picked him up at the airport on Sunday and we've spent every subsequent day together. There's no way I'll ever know for certain what did and did not happen while he was gone, but that's okay. I've made the internal decision to trust him since he has never given me a reason not to. now its your turn for a girl's weekend to Vegas;)
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