Author D-Lish Posted October 9, 2011 Author Share Posted October 9, 2011 Alright, so now that we got over the wishy washy stuff, how many red flags, where were they, and what will u do? Also, what does it mean, why is he acting like this, and what are you doing wrong? Also, your ex appears to be very involved in this date, did he go there with you or something? What are you talking about? It's too early in the day to be drinking. Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Isn't your ex in every second post? Also if you want to get drinks I'm cool with it. Just ask next time ;-) Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 10, 2011 Author Share Posted October 10, 2011 Alright, so now that we got over the wishy washy stuff, how many red flags, where were they, and what will u do? Also, what does it mean, why is he acting like this, and what are you doing wrong? No red flags, I quite like him. It's only been 2 dates, so I haven't done anything wrong yet. I guess give it time and I'll manage to screw something up. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 No red flags, I quite like him. It's only been 2 dates, so I haven't done anything wrong yet. I guess give it time and I'll manage to screw something up. Why do you think that? That almost makes you sound like Somedude. The vibe I get from you over the forum is great, why do you think you would screw it up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 10, 2011 Author Share Posted October 10, 2011 Why do you think that? That almost makes you sound like Somedude. The vibe I get from you over the forum is great, why do you think you would screw it up? Sorry, I was using sarcasm to respond to D3. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 Sorry, I was using sarcasm to respond to D3. Aha, well ok then, I'll let you off the hook just this one time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 10, 2011 Author Share Posted October 10, 2011 Aha, well ok then, I'll let you off the hook just this one time. And I'll let you off the hook for saying I sounded like somedude:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 I went out on a date last night. He seems like a good guy, slightly geeky, incredibly intelligent, well educated. I am unsure if I am physically attracted to him, but I'm still going to give it a try because there is a little spark there. you can come visit me, i'm sure we'd get along Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 Congrats, D-Lish! I am sort of in the same boat; I had two dates this weekend with an eye surgeon. I wasn't really physically attracted to him on the Friday night date, but he took me to a museum opening that had Spanish guitar music and then out for sushi. I agreed to the second date on Sunday and by that time, I was getting turned on by the fact that he could explain scientifically why my eyes were beautiful and was able to translate some Japanese kanji we stumbled across and order our French luncheon in perfect Lyonnaise dialect. He took me to see the Blue Angels fly in San Francisco and talking about the various aircraft and how the stunts were flown got me as well. The brain IS the biggest sex organ after all! Congrats to both of us! Let's hope we both have success... Link to post Share on other sites
ThsAmericanLife Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 ok, so I have to ask... At which point do you believe he's NOT looking for a FWB? I suppose if you are ok with just going with the flow and seeing where things go, then that is ok. But based on your past posts... you were really hurt by men you had good times with... who pulled the rug out from under you when you needed them most. I understand that lots of men lie about wanting to be in a relationship and about commitment (maybe you don't want those things??)... but I'd have a very hard time being with someone who admitted up front those weren't his goals... and then later backpedeled when he saw someone who is as cute and fun as you seem to be. Only because I'd feel like a complete idiot after the fact if it didn't work out. Like... Ok, I was warned... and I STILL went forward. And if you don't mind the bystander's opinion... I wasn't aware that differences in sex drive was the make/break point in your past relationships. It seemed like a lack of empathy and commitment on their part. It was all about you being fun-time girl... and when things got not 'fun'... as life will be... they didn't want or know how to cope. Just calling it like I see it... You seem like a really neat person D-lish... I just don't want you to get hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 10, 2011 Author Share Posted October 10, 2011 (edited) you can come visit me, i'm sure we'd get along I know we'd get along- and into a lot of trouble too:p Congrats, D-Lish! I am sort of in the same boat; I had two dates this weekend with an eye surgeon. I wasn't really physically attracted to him on the Friday night date, but he took me to a museum opening that had Spanish guitar music and then out for sushi. I agreed to the second date on Sunday and by that time, I was getting turned on by the fact that he could explain scientifically why my eyes were beautiful and was able to translate some Japanese kanji we stumbled across and order our French luncheon in perfect Lyonnaise dialect. He took me to see the Blue Angels fly in San Francisco and talking about the various aircraft and how the stunts were flown got me as well. The brain IS the biggest sex organ after all! Congrats to both of us! Let's hope we both have success... Yes, I agree, intelligence is such a turn on. It may or may not work out. I'm not sure yet. I'm leaving my options open. I'm not going to sleep with him until I really get to know him. If he's sincere about being open to a relationship instead of a fwb situation, he will be okay with waiting! I'm glad you met someone!!!! Edited October 10, 2011 by D-Lish Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 I know we'd get along- and into a lot of trouble too:p heh heh heh Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 10, 2011 Author Share Posted October 10, 2011 ok, so I have to ask... At which point do you believe he's NOT looking for a FWB? I suppose if you are ok with just going with the flow and seeing where things go, then that is ok. But based on your past posts... you were really hurt by men you had good times with... who pulled the rug out from under you when you needed them most. I understand that lots of men lie about wanting to be in a relationship and about commitment (maybe you don't want those things??)... but I'd have a very hard time being with someone who admitted up front those weren't his goals... and then later backpedeled when he saw someone who is as cute and fun as you seem to be. Only because I'd feel like a complete idiot after the fact if it didn't work out. Like... Ok, I was warned... and I STILL went forward. And if you don't mind the bystander's opinion... I wasn't aware that differences in sex drive was the make/break point in your past relationships. It seemed like a lack of empathy and commitment on their part. It was all about you being fun-time girl... and when things got not 'fun'... as life will be... they didn't want or know how to cope. Just calling it like I see it... You seem like a really neat person D-lish... I just don't want you to get hurt. Thanks, In my last relationship there were a whole host of things that weren't healthy/good. The sex drive difference was just one of them. We're proceeding in a friends first direction- and he is fine with that. If nothing else, it's a nice distraction from pining over the ex. I feel 90% over him, and just hanging out with someone interesting has helped a lot. I'm not sleeping with him unless I am sure about his intentions. Link to post Share on other sites
ThsAmericanLife Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 Thanks, In my last relationship there were a whole host of things that weren't healthy/good. The sex drive difference was just one of them. We're proceeding in a friends first direction- and he is fine with that. If nothing else, it's a nice distraction from pining over the ex. I feel 90% over him, and just hanging out with someone interesting has helped a lot. I'm not sleeping with him unless I am sure about his intentions. I agree that incompatible sex drives would be difficult. I've kind of taken myself out of the dating pool while I decide where I'll be living next. I know I can't stay here. There is part of me that has toyed with the idea of a FWB/casual sex thing.. just because the rest of my life really suffers when I'm not GETTING SOME! dammit. My body needs to have a chat with my brain. They are not cooperating right now!!! I'm sure you can relate... young enough to want what we want. Old enough to know better. *sigh* Wish you the best!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 11, 2011 Author Share Posted October 11, 2011 I agree that incompatible sex drives would be difficult. I've kind of taken myself out of the dating pool while I decide where I'll be living next. I know I can't stay here. There is part of me that has toyed with the idea of a FWB/casual sex thing.. just because the rest of my life really suffers when I'm not GETTING SOME! dammit. My body needs to have a chat with my brain. They are not cooperating right now!!! I'm sure you can relate... young enough to want what we want. Old enough to know better. *sigh* Wish you the best!! Yes, I can relate, I don't think I could do a FWB again. After my divorce I didn't give a crap, so it was okay to have a couple of those. But now, I know better- I'd end up developing feelings. Actually, that not true, I'd have to have feelings FIRST before I'd "go there". As far as I am concerned, these breaks in between relationships? Well, that's what vibrator's and porn is for:lmao: Maybe I could patten an idea for a vibrator that "talks to you". You turn it on, it says some sweet things, asks you how your day was, and when you're "done" it asks if you'd like "to cuddle". Then it goes into snore (power saving) mode. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 Maybe I could patten an idea for a vibrator that "talks to you". You turn it on, it says some sweet things, asks you how your day was, and when you're "done" it asks if you'd like "to cuddle". Then it goes into snore (power saving) mode. Don't forget to include the toilet seat option. When "you're" done, the toilet seat will go back up after 5 minutes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 11, 2011 Author Share Posted October 11, 2011 d-lish you're so dirty. i'm rubbing one off to your filthy language. keep going please I'm a very nice mixture of candid, sensitive, and someone that likes to cross boundaries. You've cracked one off a few times tonight, how is it that you aren't snoring right now? The last two guys I've dated would be snoring away by now, if poking them didn't work I'd have to resort to dropping a glass or blasting a blow horn in their face... And when they stir I'd say soothingly "heeeeyyy, you're awake, wanna do it again?":rolleyes: Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 11, 2011 Author Share Posted October 11, 2011 oh and by the way the word is PATENT. you may have two degrees but it looks from your poor vocabulary that they were in physical education or some dumb subject like that. you are back to being a redneck. I'm still proud of my trailer and how I've decorated it. Link to post Share on other sites
Graviton Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 i'm an ultimate fighter. my body is designed to go hard for 5 rounds and for you i'll go the distance. You post on a forum about MMA, you don't fight in the octagon yourself. How do I know? I know because guys who fight in the UFC tend to train for 6 to 8 hours a day, yet you're not training, you're here. Trolling on a dating forum. Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 11, 2011 Author Share Posted October 11, 2011 i'm an ultimate fighter. my body is designed to go hard for 5 rounds and for you i'll go the distance. I was thinking maybe we could meet for a latte first and you could go over Phonics with me, then move on to spelling and grammar. If you can coach me on how to use an apostrophe properly, I'll be forever indebted. If all goes well, then we can naked wrestle. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 If all goes well, then we can naked wrestle. You're so hott some times D-Lish Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 12, 2011 Share Posted October 12, 2011 Yes, I can relate, I don't think I could do a FWB again. After my divorce I didn't give a crap, so it was okay to have a couple of those. But now, I know better- I'd end up developing feelings. Actually, that not true, I'd have to have feelings FIRST before I'd "go there". As far as I am concerned, these breaks in between relationships? Well, that's what vibrator's and porn is for Maybe I could patten an idea for a vibrator that "talks to you". You turn it on, it says some sweet things, asks you how your day was, and when you're "done" it asks if you'd like "to cuddle". Then it goes into snore (power saving) mode. Shower massager!!!! It's my BFF during my dry spells with my H. (aka when he has kidney stones, or is sick, or just not in the mood). Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 Shower massager!!!! It's my BFF during my dry spells with my H. (aka when he has kidney stones, or is sick, or just not in the mood). We've been seeing a lot of one another. He noticed a lump in my breast last night- it surprised me because it's quite large. He called me twice today, once to ask if I'd made a dr's appt, and just now to see how I was feeling. He'd gone online and done a lot of research and he wanted to talk to me about it. He has also said he was concerned about my weight loss and stress levels at work, so he came by last night with groceries and made me dinner. I've never dated anyone this thoughtful before. He's a great cook. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 (edited) We've been seeing a lot of one another. He noticed a lump in my breast last night- it surprised me because it's quite large. He called me twice today, once to ask if I'd made a dr's appt, and just now to see how I was feeling. He'd gone online and done a lot of research and he wanted to talk to me about it. He has also said he was concerned about my weight loss and stress levels at work, so he came by last night with groceries and made me dinner. I've never dated anyone this thoughtful before. He's a great cook. Just what the doctor ordered. I like the sound of this guy D-Lish. Sounds like a keeper so far. Let's hope that lump is something harmless. *crosses fingers* Edited October 15, 2011 by Nexus One Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 Just what the doctor ordered. I like the sounds of this guy D-Lish. Sounds like a keeper so far. It's strange, He seems like he enjoys taking care of me. He really wowed me with the groceries and dinner surprise. He'd opened up my fridge the other day for water and gave me a little lecture about eating better and looking after myself, He told me to just sit and rest and he did everything. That's nice eh? He's also very open and he communicates really well. Link to post Share on other sites
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