lonelynyc Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 As early as this past Sunday I was distraught over my ex. I just couldn't figure out why she kept restoring my hope only to shatter it again on a near daily basis. Then, on Monday, I severed ties for good, changed my number the following morning, and have been in high spirits ever since. Calling it cathartic is an understatement. I have another date tonight with the girl I went out with last Friday. She's really great and I enjoyed our first night out, I even feel like this is someone I could be happy seeing regularly and really getting to know. So, mentally I'm feeling excited about it, but I'm having doubts due to all the things I've read on LS and heard from countless people wiser than I am when it comes to matters of the heart. Despite my enthusiasm is this girl still just a rebound? Is there any way I'm ready to date given the chronology of events? Have any good relationships ever grown out of a rebound-like scenario?
EgoJoe Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Your ex is a confused and scared little girl. I don't care if she's 30 it's easy to spot provided that you've been one-hundred percent forthcoming with us. It is definitely too soon for you to be in a relationship. Date casually and take it slow. Mad props for changing your number. Keep your head up!
Author lonelynyc Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 Your ex is a confused and scared little girl. I don't care if she's 30 it's easy to spot provided that you've been one-hundred percent forthcoming with us. It is definitely too soon for you to be in a relationship. Date casually and take it slow. Mad props for changing your number. Keep your head up! Yes, haven't distorted the picture, took full blame for my contribution to the end of the relationship. She has a lot of serious problems, it became increasingly clear over time. She is a member on 6, and I am by no means exaggerating, dating sites. Never pegged her for the online dating type, but that shows what I know. I think it's pathetic--online dating lowlives as a replacement for me? Really? She needs to work on herself. I am keeping it very casual. If I develop strong feelings for this girl, who knows? But for now, it should just be about having some good, clean fun.
M2155 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 For what it's worth I consider what my ex and I a good relationship that started (in hindsight) as a rebound. We were together almost 2 years, it was a fresh start for us both. I don't know if he still had feelings for his ex or if it was more OUR relationship that had too many issues- because we reallly did- so he eventually went back to her. But doesn't sound like his ex was anything like yours, if I had to guess he was bored. I think it's fine to date the girl you like, just take it slow and tell her you're not ready to get seriously involved with anyone. I'm going through this right now with a nice guy who really likes me but I'm kinda just enjoying hanging out and dating unexclusively. But in time there could be more.
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