SunsetRed Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I just have a depressing thought..what if you fore yourself to do NC and your ex simply vanishes and never calls you again? I know that the whole point of NC is fo yourself to let go and not a way to get an ex back, but still...I bet most of us are hoping that the ex will call back at some point, but what if they just simply vanish and we never hear from them again. I would like to think that I am important enough that my ex would remember me and call me to see what I've been up to.
arbrne_vet Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 then you will realize how important you were to them.
lonelynyc Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 If that happens, consider yourself lucky. You might wonder what they're up to for a while, but at a certain point your feelings will fade and you will be ready for the next phase of your life (which is a very good thing). Many of the people on this forum, including me, did not maintain NC and, as a result, went through months or sometimes years of agonizing, painful limbo. Almost none of us got our ex's back, just ended up more hurt and stunted in our efforts to heal.
Lostinlife4now Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I just have a depressing thought..what if you fore yourself to do NC and your ex simply vanishes and never calls you again? I know that the whole point of NC is fo yourself to let go and not a way to get an ex back, but still...I bet most of us are hoping that the ex will call back at some point, but what if they just simply vanish and we never hear from them again. I would like to think that I am important enough that my ex would remember me and call me to see what I've been up to. It's just a chance you have to take.......
Kilty Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I just have a depressing thought..what if you fore yourself to do NC and your ex simply vanishes and never calls you again? I know that the whole point of NC is fo yourself to let go and not a way to get an ex back, but still...I bet most of us are hoping that the ex will call back at some point, but what if they just simply vanish and we never hear from them again. I would like to think that I am important enough that my ex would remember me and call me to see what I've been up to. Your emotions are running wild SR You say you know that the whole point of NC is not to get an ex back yet you bet most of us are hoping the ex calls. The likelihood is that they will vanish - and that is why you are using NC to get over them. There will come a point when not only do you no longer feel the way you do but you will dread any contact from your ex as there is the danger that it could set you back. The next point after that will be indifference. You will have moved on and quite possibly are with someone else and will not be interested in anything your ex has to say regardless if they call you or not. What you are currently experiencing is denial, you have been on here long enough to realise that yourself , and it is your emotions that are causing it. What good would it do if your ex did call you for an inane meaningless pleasantry & catch up call ? Deep down you know why you really want that to happen ......
Eddie Edirol Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I just have a depressing thought..what if you fore yourself to do NC and your ex simply vanishes and never calls you again? I know that the whole point of NC is fo yourself to let go and not a way to get an ex back, but still...I bet most of us are hoping that the ex will call back at some point, but what if they just simply vanish and we never hear from them again. I would like to think that I am important enough that my ex would remember me and call me to see what I've been up to. Thats what usually happens. The ex's vanish after you enforce NC. But after a while, you realize thats what needs to happen for you to move on. Otherwise you will look for any reason to contact them. When they dump you, you are never important enough for them to wonder what you are up to, because they are usually with someone that is more important by that time. Some peoples exs to contact them, but its usually breadcrumbs, and they arent really interested in updates.
ffw Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I just have a depressing thought..what if you fore yourself to do NC and your ex simply vanishes and never calls you again? I know that the whole point of NC is fo yourself to let go and not a way to get an ex back, but still...I bet most of us are hoping that the ex will call back at some point, but what if they just simply vanish and we never hear from them again. I would like to think that I am important enough that my ex would remember me and call me to see what I've been up to. My friend Sunset, you are still holding on to the hope rope deep down in your heart. As you are well aware, you can't get properly heal if are thinking about your ex in your mind & hoping to reunite. IN others words, you are making it difficult for yourself to move on. As I always say, in these kind of cases, hope is a dangerous thing and can drive a person insane.
Rorschach64 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Speaking from NC of 4 month which my ex never took a second to contact me, even for my birthday just shows how little she thought of me. I see now her ploys of offering friendship while trying to down play my feelings and my side of the story was just her trying to appease her own guilt instead of caring for me. If they loved you they wouldn't have done this, time to move on
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