tito2012 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Hey everyone, I am here because I recently went through a break up with my girlfried of 5 years. We both have children, but none by one another. Over the past year things really started to spin out of control and it eventually lead to us splitting up. There were things that we did wrong on both of our parts, but the straw that broke the camels back was she had a really secret life behind facebook. She modeled and she let lots of photographers talk her into posing nude for photographs, which was my limit so I kicked her and her son out of my house from the betrayed feeling. So far its been about 3 months since we've split and have had lots of communication, it didnt really seem over because we both were still contacting and doing things for one another. But I feel like I dont know who she is anymore. She still insists that she still loves me and wants to be back together with me, but everytime the situation arises shes really hesitant. I love her with all my heart and want her to come back but what am I to do?? Right now things are very hard for her becuase the place where she is staying she cant bring her kid with her so her son stays with her mother. I want nothing more in the world to have her come back and we try and work things out, but here constant ups and downs are very confusing. Ive read the tips on getting your ex back and Im a little skeptical on how to approach this situation. I have no doubt in my mind that she still loves me. But I want her to come back because she wants to. She calls me when things are going wrong for her (no money, could you pick up her son, etc). but after she gets what she wants, she dissappears. Just yesterday, she called saying she had no gas and food and I didnt give her anything becasue I am not going to be taken advantage of, and I havent heard from her since. THis is actually the first time we didnt talk to eachother before going to bed. I woke up this mornig and really felt like, "wow, i guess this is really over"...Throughout these 3 months, ive been a total mess but trying to keep it together for work and everything. NObody understands what I am going through so talking to friends and family helps none at all. Should I quit trying and just let it go?? or is there something that could be done to rekindle this. I NEED HELP!! Thanks for reading..
whenitsmyturn Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I say let it go and move on....its not healthy at all.
Chi townD Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck...SO, if you feel like you're being used...then you probably are.
KathyM Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Sounds like you're being used and her life is a chaotic mess. I feel sorry for the son to be stuck in the middle of this.
Author tito2012 Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 And so do i. But what was i supposed to do?? Havin ur backside and and everything else on display for the world to me is not somehing most men will not tolerate. When she started her "modeling" first it was cool, her and a few girls would do shoots fully clothed that is... But as t progressed, the clothes started comming off. And that i couldnt stand for...if she was getting paid for it, i woukd understand, after about a year into it she became fully obsessed with it. It wasnt about the modeling, it was about the attention she recieved by it...i kno how guys are and i kno they cant resist to drop a " hey sexy" in someones inbox. I dont susoect cheating, but its how much she would do for the negative attention that uoset me. After i made her leave the house, i had a lil troubke with work and watnot, so i moved out of the house and rented it out.. and moved into my other rental property. And get this, its right next door to her moms house!! (All her idea to buy that dam duplex!! Lol) So heres my dilema.. so far ive her seen dam near everyday, see her son who ive grown a bond with everyday, and she still leads on as if were still gonna work it out. I have my demands and wont budge on them. Her life is a mess right now..shes a broke 32 yr old, thinking shes gonna reach fame from the flash of a camera.. her son us 13 and is at a crucial time in his life. My daughter who is 7 really resents me cause she adores my ex and sees her all the time but dosent really understand whats goin. As bad as u want to throw in the towell and give hope, it becomes hard in my situation...so this whole thing is pretty tough..im vert confused right now.
KathyM Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 And so do i. But what was i supposed to do?? Havin ur backside and and everything else on display for the world to me is not somehing most men will not tolerate. When she started her "modeling" first it was cool, her and a few girls would do shoots fully clothed that is... But as t progressed, the clothes started comming off. And that i couldnt stand for...if she was getting paid for it, i woukd understand, after about a year into it she became fully obsessed with it. It wasnt about the modeling, it was about the attention she recieved by it...i kno how guys are and i kno they cant resist to drop a " hey sexy" in someones inbox. I dont susoect cheating, but its how much she would do for the negative attention that uoset me. After i made her leave the house, i had a lil troubke with work and watnot, so i moved out of the house and rented it out.. and moved into my other rental property. And get this, its right next door to her moms house!! (All her idea to buy that dam duplex!! Lol) So heres my dilema.. so far ive her seen dam near everyday, see her son who ive grown a bond with everyday, and she still leads on as if were still gonna work it out. I have my demands and wont budge on them. Her life is a mess right now..shes a broke 32 yr old, thinking shes gonna reach fame from the flash of a camera.. her son us 13 and is at a crucial time in his life. My daughter who is 7 really resents me cause she adores my ex and sees her all the time but dosent really understand whats goin. As bad as u want to throw in the towell and give hope, it becomes hard in my situation...so this whole thing is pretty tough..im vert confused right now. If I were you, the nude modeling would be a deal breaker for me too. Most men don't want their gfs nude pictures displayed for other people. Doesn't sound like an emotionally mature person to have in your life or around your child. I'd suggest renting out the house next to her mom's to someone else and look for another place with a fair amount of distance from them.
Author tito2012 Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 In a perfect world, that sounds like the right thing to do..at the beginning of the year, i was laid off from my job and just went back to work literally a month ago. A big portion of my savings went to maintaining the mortgage on the house and living expences. So it is more ecinomically feasable for me to live where it costs less. I have no rent, because the ither unit covers the payment on the building..i do plan to move, but dont see it haplening for a few more months.
KathyM Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 In a perfect world, that sounds like the right thing to do..at the beginning of the year, i was laid off from my job and just went back to work literally a month ago. A big portion of my savings went to maintaining the mortgage on the house and living expences. So it is more ecinomically feasable for me to live where it costs less. I have no rent, because the ither unit covers the payment on the building..i do plan to move, but dont see it haplening for a few more months. Then I guess you'll have to stick it out there until you can find other living arrangements. Good luck. I think you're doing the right thing by ending it. She doesn't sound like long term material to me, or someone that would be a good influence on your child.
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