momto3boys Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 After my "husband" has been acting wishy washy. Saying he might want to work things out and then acting jealous of every guy i talk to and then turning around and saying he does not want to work things out. So i finally broke down and told him i was no longer in love with him anymore because of how he's been treating me this past month. Then i told him he needed to stop flip flopping and i was going to act as if im 100% separated and he had to stay out of my personal life. I felt better saying that to him considering he has said it to me a few times since telling me he wants a divorce. I told him i wasnt trying to be mean and i wanted to still be friends but i just didnt feel the same way about him anymore. He sounded sad after i told him and now he has distanced himself. I feel bad saying it now because when he told me he no longer loved me, it was like a knife to the heart. I dont know if he really meant it or not. Right now, im feeling like i really did mean it when i said it. He has been horrible to me this past month, he wanted me to leave and move 6 hours away at 32 weeks pregnant, he has done nothing but party since i left, he has chosen his family over me (his mom has been pretty mean to me, i have always just avoided her at all cost because shes a mean woman). I know thats part of the reason he left was because his mom and i did not like each other. I am just starting to feel like i deserve better than how he treats me. But a part of me hopes he changes and grows up a bit during this separation and we can possibly work things out and regain feelings back again. We have had a hard marriage with financial issues, military life style, a deployment and now possible ptsd.
TheDovic Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 He obviously didn't mean it as he is still in contact with you, but his behaviour is ridiculous! Hopefully you being so strong will force him to grow up. Well done, you're very strong!
Author momto3boys Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 Thanks We have to have some contact because of having a child together. But i have tried to make them just communicate but he emails me and calls me to talk to me a lot of the time. Im hoping he grows up but i doubt he will. He really isnt the same since getting back from afghanistan.
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