Mrsnake Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 (edited) Hi I'm new, great forum! I'm hoping for some advice about a situation that happened yesterday. I was in a mens clothing store getting some jeans, after a few mins I hear some staff talking and lookup, a dude has his back to me and this cute girl is checking me out, she smiles and looks away. Whatever, she works here right... that's kinda her job. Now the girl actually works in the home furnishings dept of the same shop on the same floor, so isnt a server for the clothes customers. After a few mins the dude leaves her dept and comes over when i need the changing room. When I'm paying I have a few sec waiting and have a little look about, she is sort of pretending to do some tidying and is checking me out again... Now im starting to take notice. I pay and start to leave, I have to walk past her desk to get out. It's all happening a bit quick and I think it's probably best to just smile and say hi. I can then see what response i get close up and if i still like the look of her. After-all i know where she works to see her again. She is nowhere to be seen but then as i get past her desk she's hiding around a corner again pretending to arrange cushions, all very cute and as she looks up we both smile, she blushes and i say hi and just keep walking. Now obviously i want to pursue this, but this doesn't happen often, most people I date I meet via friends or friends of friends or through work etc. This is a bit more cold, I think i have the minerals to go and talk to her but it's more that I want her to feel comfortable, I dont want to scare her, see seems the shy type. What would be the best thing to do here... Like do i go in today or do i wait a week... Do i just be straight and ask her or should I make it a bit more fun and pretend im shopping and ask for her help etc, get a convo going first. Cheers, MrS. Edited October 7, 2011 by Mrsnake
ChessPieceFace Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I thought a girl that worked at my gym was checking me out when she came into the entranceway for no good reason when I was waiting in there. Turns out they just have a no-cell-phone policy and she was going in there to text. I've never noticed anyone checking me out. How do you notice? Maybe my low self-esteem blocks it out.
Author Mrsnake Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 (edited) I thought a girl that worked at my gym was checking me out when she came into the entranceway for no good reason when I was waiting in there. Turns out they just have a no-cell-phone policy and she was going in there to text. I've never noticed anyone checking me out. How do you notice? Maybe my low self-esteem blocks it out. I'd say it's mostly in the eyes, happy eyes, eye contact, smiles, smiles then looking at the floor, blushing or the look of being caught, shyness. The eye contact and smiles kinda got my attention, i dunno, i didnt really notice her until I saw someone looking at me in a way that said "im here, notice me!" Then her moving around to keep me in view and pretending to do stuff while looking at me was another indicator, then staying out of view but in a place she can watch me leave another, id put that down to a bit of fear. Not saying im in there or anything, but that's definably interest. It is easy to read into things but i find that's normally the case when you like someone first, not the other way round. Like if i had gone into the store noticed her first and thought ill smile and make it known, then i talk to her and im looking for signs. This wasnt like that, was quite refreshing actually, getting hit on is nice. She had made it quite obvious before i really realised what was going on. Edited October 7, 2011 by Mrsnake
Author Mrsnake Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 I thought a girl that worked at my gym was checking me out when she came into the entranceway for no good reason when I was waiting in there. Turns out they just have a no-cell-phone policy and she was going in there to text. I've never noticed anyone checking me out. How do you notice? Maybe my low self-esteem blocks it out. On another note, maybe the phone was a prop. Lots of places on earth have phone reception, but she chose the spot next to you. I would have at least said Hi.
brokendreamz Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Hey Mrsnake. Welcome!! I had the same thing happen to me on Wednesday... In the restaurant I took a date to. The waitress was defo giving me the eye - a little akward cos I was with a date, but I kinda like the look of her. I'm not sure how to play this either - it's not like I can go browse in a restaurant!! Oh, what to do...
Author Mrsnake Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 Well clearly you can browse in a restaurant, just not at the food lol. I dunno, maybe go in there (to eat) with a male friend, so it's a little less awkward. I think i'll wait till early next week, go in and get another pair of jeans, in all honestly i wanted two pairs of the ones i bought and they only had one in my size. Then if she's there go into her dept and ask her to help with a gift i need to buy for my mum or something, showing you care and value family is always a good look. See how that goes and close if it seems appropriate.
Leegh Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Whatever you do, don't give her your card, and ask for her to call you, as women hate that! I suggest going back in a week, and saying that you plan to be in the area (where she works) again soon, and would she like to meet for coffee. If she can't do it on a working day, I'd suggest a casual meeting on a weekend day, such as coffee. If things go well after coffee, ask her for an official date.
Author Mrsnake Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 Ha ha yeah, cards are a little formal imo. But how should I open? Spin a line, pretend to shop or something or just make a beeline for her and be straight up?
Leegh Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I have three options. Option 1- Go back to the store and if she is busy with a customer, look at merchandise until she is free, then start a casual conversation about the weather or something, and tell her that you will be in this area again next week and would she like to meet you for coffee. Option 2- Go back to the store to refresh her memory, and introduce yourself, (give her your name), then ask for her phone number, and then call her in a couple of days, and say that you will be in her area again next week, etc., and to possibly meet for coffee. Option 3- Go back to the store to refresh her memoy, then in a couple of days call the store (and ask the store operator) for her dept., and once you get her on the telephone tell her you'll be in the area next week, and would she like to meet for coffee.
Author Mrsnake Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 Thanks for the suggestions, i ended up going back earlier today but she wasn't working. I swear, you gotta act there and then or the opportunity is lost. My trouble is i dont always see the importance of what is happening until it's passed, she gave me the signals I should have acted. I may try again next week, but im not going to obsess, everything happens for a reason, if she isn't there again, it isn't meant to be.
ChessPieceFace Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 On another note, maybe the phone was a prop. Lots of places on earth have phone reception, but she chose the spot next to you. I would have at least said Hi. - I sort of think she was just really just using her phone in there - I'm not dateable right now due to various reasons (broke w/ no car, not near enough to my target weight and don't feel good about myself) so I wouldn't ask anyone out regardless There have been a couple girls at karaoke that I wondered if they were checking me out. Same reasons for not pursuing anything though.
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