Leegh Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 This question is mainly for the guys. When a "new" guy, in the very early dating stages, sends an email on a Monday morning, and says he will call that week to says "hi", should I reply to his email to give him encouragement to call? Do guys hope that they will receive a reply email, even though the guy said he would call? Also, would you think she was not interested if you didn't receive a reply from your email to her?
oaks Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 This question is mainly for the guys. When a "new" guy, in the very early dating stages, sends an email on a Monday morning, and says he will call that week to says "hi", should I reply to his email to give him encouragement to call? Do guys hope that they will receive a reply email, even though the guy said he would call? Also, would you think she was not interested if you didn't receive a reply from your email to her? Assuming we already had a history of emailing, it would seem unnatural to not get some sort of reply. I'm assuming this has happened to you, and it's now Friday and you haven't emailed him and he hasn't called. Why wouldn't you reply either to say that you're looking forward to hearing his voice, or to suggest which times are good or bad for a call, or even just to continue whatever conversations you were having? It's not that you should 'need' to reply, but it's (unfortunately) all too easy to imagine being ignored or to assume that lack of encouragement signifies disapproval. But anyway, he should still call since he said he would!
brokendreamz Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Everyone likes a reply don't they? Ifyou like them, there's a fine line between game playing and having game... Don't appear too easy!!
aisle_seat Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 If he emailed you 4 days ago saying he would call this week, and you haven't replied and he hasn't called, I think you have your answer. As a dude, I can tell you we want replies to emails. I think dating and email etiquette requires it; it's just polite to do so. Next time you get an email like that, replying by saying you're looking forward to his call would be the thing to do. Don't play games and, hopefully, he won't either.
USMCHokie Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 It's simple. If you want to talk to him, then talk/email to him. If you don't want to talk/email to him, then don't. You should be able to assume the same from him. If he doesn't talk to you, then he doesn't want to talk to you. Anyone who is not consistent with this is not worth your time.
Author Leegh Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 Assuming we already had a history of emailing, it would seem unnatural to not get some sort of reply. I'm assuming this has happened to you, and it's now Friday and you haven't emailed him and he hasn't called. Why wouldn't you reply either to say that you're looking forward to hearing his voice, or to suggest which times are good or bad for a call, or even just to continue whatever conversations you were having? It's not that you should 'need' to reply, but it's (unfortunately) all too easy to imagine being ignored or to assume that lack of encouragement signifies disapproval. But anyway, he should still call since he said he would! He had never emailed me before, as this was a "new" guy. I suppose I assumed that since he said he would call I took his word for it. If he had said for me in the email to call him I definitely would have. It could be insecurity on my part, but maybe he sent the email to "blow me off", saying he was busy, but would call, and had no intention of ever calling. Maybe he never expected to get a reply email from me saying I was looking forward to his call, etc. I have to go out of town for my work, but when I return I plan to send him a short, casual email just "touching base" and see if he replies. If he wasn't interested he shouldn't have sent me the email, and if he was he should have called and lived up to his word!
skylarkjv Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 He had never emailed me before, as this was a "new" guy. I suppose I assumed that since he said he would call I took his word for it. If he had said for me in the email to call him I definitely would have. It could be insecurity on my part, but maybe he sent the email to "blow me off", saying he was busy, but would call, and had no intention of ever calling. Maybe he never expected to get a reply email from me saying I was looking forward to his call, etc. I have to go out of town for my work, but when I return I plan to send him a short, casual email just "touching base" and see if he replies. If he wasn't interested he shouldn't have sent me the email, and if he was he should have called and lived up to his word! Personally, if I e-mail a girl that I'm going to call, I plan on calling. And I really want a reply e-mail back at least letting me know she received the e-mail and acknowledges that I will call. If she doesn't want me to call, then politely let me know. But I'm not going to tell them I'll call if I'm not interested. As soon as I realize I'm not feeling, I let them know. I've been strung on a line before, and it sucks. So I try not to be the one doing the stringing.
Author Leegh Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 Personally, if I e-mail a girl that I'm going to call, I plan on calling. And I really want a reply e-mail back at least letting me know she received the e-mail and acknowledges that I will call. If she doesn't want me to call, then politely let me know. But I'm not going to tell them I'll call if I'm not interested. As soon as I realize I'm not feeling, I let them know. I've been strung on a line before, and it sucks. So I try not to be the one doing the stringing. I admire you for saying that if you e-mail a girl saying that you will call, you plan on calling. That is admirable. Possibly it was a mis-understanding with this "new" guy, that he hoped for a reply e-mail from me to give him the green light to call. When we initially met and he asked me out in person, I said yes, and when he called the night we met I noticed his voice was shaking during the first part of the conversation, and that was when he knew in advance that I would go out with him, so possibly he was too afraid to call.
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