soulforge2010 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 hello guys, i would like some advice off you, and would like your opinion on, if i did the right thing, in finishing the girl i was seeing. ok so i was seeing her for about 4 weeks (i know not a very long period) but i did like her. so we met on a dating site, seeing each other at least 3 times a week (we was also sleeping together) anyhow 2 weeks of seeing each other, i suggested we take ourselves off the dating site & she agreed on that. i Immediately deleted my profile off the dating site, i spoke to her on the phone & she told me, she has deleted her profile also, so i totally believed her. i did text her a few times for some assurance, on if she had really taken her profile off, and she promised me that she has deleted it. she said she would not lie about it, and wouldn't do anything to upset me. so i carry on seeing her, but only a few days down the line, i am at my mates house, who also uses this particular dating site..... and guess what? her profile is still on there & she is showing to be online.... i started texting her, just a normal coversation & i could tell she was not responding back to me, as she normally would... it seemed like she was occupied with something (ie) she was online on this dating site as you can imagine i was pretty shocked to see this, not only was she back on the dating site, but she had uploaded new pictures of herself, posing in her underwear!!!!! i couldn't believe it, so i spent the whole evening thinking about it, and decided that i am going to have to finish it. so i sent her a text, saying sorry but i cannot see you again & take care! at this point she went a bit beserk & started franticly ringing me, and texting me, asking why i had finished it, but i was too upset to respond or take her calls. later that night i sent her a text saying "have fun on the dating site posing in your underwear" and she did not respond back to me. she has texted me since, and is saying that it is her freind who is using her profile to chat to guys on there, and it is not her.... why would her friend upload pics of my ex in her underwear? why would her freind be using her profile to chat to guys? she reckons it's so that her freind can use her profile to text if guys are genuine or not? how weird is that. so now she wants me to stay off the dating site.... but she is still on it, but according to her, it's not really her, but her freind lol how messed up is that? so i have dumped her. how do i know it's really her freind using her profile? it could be her.
Author soulforge2010 Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 i took myself 100% off the dating site, but her profile is still on there, she reckons its her freind tho....wtf called me old fashioned but, if i have taken myself offm then i would expect her to compltley take herself off too. she could be telling me its her freind using her profile, when in fact it is actually her... i feel very uncomfortable with all this
LelouchIsZero Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 You're uncomfortable with the situation She posted pictures of herself in her underwear on a dating site There's a high chance that shes lying to you, in regards to whether its her friend or not What do you think?
immitable Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 should have discussed that with her before you broke up, now you are having this doubt, I'd just forget it's not like it was a long term relationship.
Author soulforge2010 Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 You're uncomfortable with the situation She posted pictures of herself in her underwear on a dating site There's a high chance that shes lying to you, in regards to whether its her friend or not What do you think? i think she maybe be lying to me? but most of all, why even put me in this situation? i think is ihighkly unfair of her, to expect me to come off a dating site, then keep her profile still active.... then expect me to believe it is not her using that profile, but her freind, whi i have never met or spoken to. for all i know, she could be using it herself? do i really want to worry about things like this, this early into i relationship? my gut told me, this feels all wrong. i could be getting played. so i finsihed it. and pics of her, in her underwear displayed on profile? that is worrying lol but she reckons her freind put then up lol
TheDovic Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Dude she's lying to you! BUT it's only been a few weeks so maybe she's just not at the same stage you are... YET!!! She obviously still likes you, but this is a bit of a red flag. If she does things like this now, what will she be like in 5 years? Personally I'd move on
Author soulforge2010 Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 (edited) Dude she's lying to you! BUT it's only been a few weeks so maybe she's just not at the same stage you are... YET!!! She obviously still likes you, but this is a bit of a red flag. If she does things like this now, what will she be like in 5 years? Personally I'd move on i get the feeling that she does like me & but she wants me off the dating site 100%, but she is staying on there to check other guys out, and keep her options open. (but pretending it his her freind who is really on there) what a crock of ****! wow what a horrible thing to do... it's a good job i dumped her, i had to do it, i was feeling used and felt like i was being played. i guess it back fired on her! Edited October 7, 2011 by soulforge2010 mistake
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