Stncldgent Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I dunno, I suppose I shouldn't be giddy about this but found out that my ex is now having her checks garnished(a friend of mine found the info on the county courts public information web page), for trying to use a check with no money in the bank to cover it, as well as not paying a medical bill. She was already having a hard time making ends meet with her 9 dollar an hour job. Now I see her dumping me as a blessing in disguise as now I don't have to deal with her, as her life spirals downward out of control My anger stage is mostly gone and I have no doubt that I am happy that she is out of my life. I have no desire to ever have her in my life again as a friend or anything more, that bridge was burned about 3 months ago. Is it wrong of me to be happy at her misfortune? I know that is mean and that, I should be above that but she didn't care about how things affected me when she dumped me. Tomorrow will be that much brighter for me after learning of this information Have a Good Day Loveshack people
smudge21 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 It is odd that whenever I've been dumped, I've found out at least within a year that something bad has happened to the dumper. I'm not a bitter person and generally feel sorry for them, but it also makes me realise I am better out (the 'bad' is usually something they've brought upon themselves). Now that said, I've also been the dumper at times and too can recall things going a bit downhill after I've ended a relationship. In my defence, I've always ended them in a civil way - never cheating or cold hearted. I guess many would say it's karma - you hurt others, you get hurt. It's the natural order of things. Whatever it is, it does seem to follow a pattern. I try to stick to the thinking of treating others as I would like to be treated.
mike111 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 LOL! When the sh*t hit the fan for my X and she lost her shirt, I laughed my ass off, because she deserved it. She even had to take her new unemployed worthless live-in lover to court to get rid of him, because they had a kid together and he became violent with her. They were in court for 3 years. lol! She really got her share of legal and money troubles and woe of all kinds after I left. None of it my fault. But she bloody well deserved it. So have a drink in celebration of her misery! woo hoo!
Sugarkane Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I so envy you! I've been dumped cruelly before, but this hasn't happened to me. And the dumper always seems happy and in a new relationship quickly.
LelouchIsZero Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I guess many would say it's karma - you hurt others, you get hurt. It's the natural order of things. Whatever it is, it does seem to follow a pattern. I try to stick to the thinking of treating others as I would like to be treated. Karma is silly. My ex "dumped" me 3 days after my brothers death. She didn't even attempt to fix anything & she had another guy already lined up -- which she had been emotionally cheating on me for a few months. A bit after our break up, I noticed that she had won a competition for this thing she really liked, lol.
smudge21 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Karma is silly. My ex "dumped" me 3 days after my brothers death. She didn't even attempt to fix anything & she had another guy already lined up -- which she had been emotionally cheating on me for a few months. A bit after our break up, I noticed that she had won a competition for this thing she really liked, lol. Sorry to hear that man, but I do believe that no one can have good fortune forever - at some point in time, things always have to change.
mike111 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I so envy you! I've been dumped cruelly before, but this hasn't happened to me. And the dumper always seems happy and in a new relationship quickly. Yeah, she put me through hell, had numerous affairs, and ripped me off for money and assets. And then.................when I left she began to lie about me to anyone who would listen, including my customers! Really awful lies too. I couldn't believe it! I called an attorney to sue her ass. But the legal cost was insane. I had to swallow all of this sh*t and just leave it at that. But in the end, she got what she had coming. She became so broke she had to beg to the community she lived in to get money to pay her $600.00 vet bill. What a loser.
LelouchIsZero Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Sorry to hear that man, but I do believe that no one can have good fortune forever - at some point in time, things always have to change. Its fine -- "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger" I agree, though I personally don't believe that it has anything to do with karma. Its just how the world works. Besides, what you suggested has nothing to do with the hindu/buddhist karma, as they state that what happens to you in this life, is the result of your karma from your past lives.
smudge21 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Yeah I agree, hence why I said some say it's karma. Not really my belief. I just like to think bad people get what they deserve, eventually.
Bruised Not Broken Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 While I understand that feeling of "ha YES" being glad they are suffering, my humble opinion is that if you truly loved this person, you should be glad you don't have to deal with that downward spiral, but you shouldn't wish ill of them. Hard I know...and I haven't always practiced what I preach here, but I am learning that my being so bitter and angry and spiteful hurt me more than anything. Pity her, yes, be glad she is not your problem any longer, yes...but wish her well and move on with your life in a more positive direction. Just my thoughts. Peace
Thieves Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 (edited) I agree, though I personally don't believe that it has anything to do with karma. Its just how the world works. Besides, what you suggested has nothing to do with the hindu/buddhist karma, as they state that what happens to you in this life, is the result of your karma from your past lives. Oui! Basically, agreed. I personally think it may have something to do with karma, but unfortunately, not the way Stncldgent puts it. 99% of the time when people talk about karma, they only talk about the 'negative' side. It's like they've taken this very natural force of life that is neither good or bad, and twisted it into this higher force that is only here to get back at all the people who've done them wrong. Plus, I'm sure Stncldgent would not be too happy to hear that when something bad happens to him in the future, his ex is secretly relishing in it. Nobody would be. I also think, and this is just me, but I do think wishing ill on others - or even relishing in another person's suffering - is almost wishing that negative energy back onto yourself. The world is already screwed up enough as it is, we don't need anymore people wishing ill on others or being glad about it when it does happen. I think it's better to just sympathize when you hear about your ex suffering, but to try and keep positive about it. It just makes the healing a lot easier. Edited October 8, 2011 by Thieves
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