loveletters Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 this time its for good. surprisingly im not as heartbroken as i thought i would be. so all day today at work i was avoiding & ignoring him up until he came to my area & asked for me to sneak away with him on his lunch. i said no, & continued to ignore him the best i could. it was either in august or sept that he told me his wife's birthday was Oct. 6.. (when he got our bdays confused) & I've remembered since then. Also, I did a little bit of online research a few months ago & found out that he got married on October 7th of 2002... well, later in the work day he told me "im calling in tomorrow, i have to take the kids to the dentist" YEAH. ON HIS WEDDING ANNIVERSARY. I knew it was a bunch of bull**** ! i played dumb & said okay & walked away, I began talking to another coworker (who is a guy, that MM doesnt like at all) & he got so jealous & infuriated, even after he had clocked out he was still waiting around to eavesdrop on our conversation. after we got done talking, MM comes storming over to me & says "YOUD RATHER TALK TO HIM OVER ME?!?! I THOUGHT I WAS YOUR.........FRIEND!!!?" I didnt say anything & walked away. I then texted him these exact words: " At least he doesn't lie to me like you do. I know damn well you're not calling in because of your kids. F*ck you and have a nice life. I'm sick of your ass treating me like ****. You're worse than my ex. I'm way too f*cking young & pretty for your pathetic ass. Stop f*cking around with young girls and be true to your wife, the one you so-called HATE yet you celebrate your anniversary with her tomorrow. I'm not stupid, I know more then you think so dont try to play me for a fool. Tell your wife I said HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Thanks." IM DONE! ITS OVER.
Emme Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 :bunny:Brilliant! Wow... I didn't see that end of your post coming. Loved it! You don't feel those weak emotions because you are healing. Congratulations!
Author loveletters Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 I know it's crazy. I didn't walk into work today thinking that I was going to end it. I knew her birthday was today & their anniversary was tomorrow. I was simply planning on ignoring him. But after he flipped out over me talking to my coworker, I got angry! The nerve he had.. I forgot to mention as he was exclaming in jealousy how I refused to talk to him, I gave him a little slap on his face. Not too hard or soft. Just right I was typing up this text but decided not to send it: "And since you're so cheap I'll reimburse you for all of the times you bought me flowers ." LOL. Man, he was such a cheapie! He also bought me a heart necklace & before he did, he told me " I have to buy it now before it goes off sale !" I was so embarrassed. Whatever , Im glad I ended it now.. I was PMSING for a whole week and felt so down, depressed, sad, hurt, & lonely the past few days... & As soon as Aunt Flow came I snapped into my senses.. HES NOT WORTH IT! That old fart! Hahaha
Author loveletters Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 I just feel like venting. PROS: He was Sweet, Kind, Funny, Generous. CONS: Liar Needed Viagra Major Flirt Cheap Shady/Thief Had no common courtesy & would fart infront of me! OMG, we weren't even on that level of comfort yet either. YES. He needed Viagra. It sucked. He would only last (literally) 2 minutes in bed. I was so frustrated by it that I actually used the stopwatch on my Iphone to time him. 2 minutes, 30 seconds was the longest. UGH! I dont care if thats too much information right now, I've never told anyone this & haven't even written about it in my personal journal.. a weight has been lifted off my chest! But for some reason, these past 7 months have been such a huge roller coaster of emotions for me. More intense then when I was in a relationship for 8 years. It would go from super-happy-in-love .. to me thinking about the reality of the situation, nothing more then an Affair, our age difference is a problem & he was telling me lies to string me along the whole time . I truly knew this, I just wanted to live in the moment & feel loved. As relieved & happy as I am, there is still a part of me that will miss his company. The way he smelled, his laugh & smile, his 'Good Morning Baby' texts. Tomorrow is Friday.... Time to go out with my girls & live it up like a 23 year old should be!
So Very Confused Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 LL, Keep venting if it helps. I know it helped me. Enjoy the start of your new life. A life without a jackass taking advantage of you and farting in front of you and being a jealous, cheap, cake eating moron. I know I missed my xMM for a while. Sometimes I still do but life goes on and I'm stronger now and he's still miserable and probably always will be. The thing I learned is that I'm willing to DO something about my life when it's miserable. I can't say that about him. Adversity makes a person stronger if they step up to the plate and deal with it. The difference between us and them (aside from the penis, a wife and a couple of kids) is that we're taking action instead of telling lies and making excuses. I know you miss him, but there's a whole world out there for you to enjoy.
missy268 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 It helps to talk so vent away!!! I agree with So Very Confused - my guy - i dont know what to call him because he isn't married he's living with his girlfriend of 2 years, but anyways, if he's unhappy and he can't do anything about it to make himself happy, then he is in for a miserable life, when i am now free and available to meet somebody else who is free and available to me! and of course there is so much more to life than men, but its nice sometimes Its natural for you to miss him - i miss mine - i really miss him so much so i went and smelt the aftershave he wears LOL but im passed that now, that was in the beginning, its been nearly 2 weeks since i ended it. xxx
Author loveletters Posted October 8, 2011 Author Posted October 8, 2011 Thanks ladies. It's been 2 days since I ended it. We haven't spoke at all, & I'm okay with that. A part of me is jumping for joy, that I had the *BALLS* to take action instead of sit around & wait, like in my previous relationship. I guess I really am growing & learning We saw each other almost everyday. At work, Home, every afternoon on the weekends & he would text me every morning. I made sure that my supervisor changed my hours to the opposite of his - because that's how done I am. I'm still searching for another job, but in the meantime I will be working these "opposite hours" until I can find one. I'm so ready for what the future holds for me. Yes, I do miss him & I think about all of the sweet times we had these past 7 months, but screw it.... Time for change!
whichwayisup Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 I then texted him these exact words: " At least he doesn't lie to me like you do. I know damn well you're not calling in because of your kids. F*ck you and have a nice life. I'm sick of your ass treating me like ****. You're worse than my ex. I'm way too f*cking young & pretty for your pathetic ass. Stop f*cking around with young girls and be true to your wife, the one you so-called HATE yet you celebrate your anniversary with her tomorrow. I'm not stupid, I know more then you think so dont try to play me for a fool. Tell your wife I said HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Thanks." IM DONE! ITS OVER. Awesome!!!!! Let's see if he has the balls to even LOOK your way, let alone speak to you. What a release! You must feel so relieved to let loose like that.
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