antz2411 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 hey i'm just wondering, are 15-30 min. phone conversations vital in a relationship? my chick had brought this up to me because she realized throughout of us being together we have never had a phone relationship. what i mean by that is we live 5 min away from each other so i see no point of conversations over the phone and i would rather have conversations face to face. from what i can remember we have probably conversed on the phone once or twice like a real conversation that lasted maybe a good 10 minutes lol. on days that i don't see her i let her be and i do my own thing, sometimes id shoot her a text asking how her day is going but barely. so my question is.. regardless of our situtation, living so close, should i introduce something new into a relationship that is going pretty well without talking on the phone?
Bruised Not Broken Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 hey i'm just wondering, are 15-30 min. phone conversations vital in a relationship? my chick had brought this up to me because she realized throughout of us being together we have never had a phone relationship. what i mean by that is we live 5 min away from each other so i see no point of conversations over the phone and i would rather have conversations face to face. from what i can remember we have probably conversed on the phone once or twice like a real conversation that lasted maybe a good 10 minutes lol. on days that i don't see her i let her be and i do my own thing, sometimes id shoot her a text asking how her day is going but barely. so my question is.. regardless of our situtation, living so close, should i introduce something new into a relationship that is going pretty well without talking on the phone? Well, that is something that she thinks is important...then instead of a text, make a quick call....definitely more personal than a text...so maybe it would mean more to her.
Author antz2411 Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 Well, that is something that she thinks is important...then instead of a text, make a quick call....definitely more personal than a text...so maybe it would mean more to her. i rarely text her acutally i rarely use the phone as means of conversations... i do call her but its to either tell her the plans for the day to come over or me come over. i don't know im just not the type of guy to waste my time conversing over the phone while it can be done face to face but i guess you're right maybe it is important to her or she would not have brought it up.
Sugarkane Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I don't see what the big deal is. Most guys aren't big on whole conversations on the phone.
esteem-jam Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 This in the Coping section? =) From what I understand you are clearly laid back /player dude, so where is your bleeding heart and wrenching stomach? Everything seems to be going fine with you, in fact I suggest avoiding online chats and text messages, cause via them people say things they cant say in real life, and you miss the facial expressions, mimics, emotions, and cant react to those when you text or chat. Phone is a bit better, but face to face is the way to go.
Author antz2411 Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 This in the Coping section? =) From what I understand you are clearly laid back /player dude, so where is your bleeding heart and wrenching stomach? haha don't know if i should take this as a compliment or an insult, well i guess ill take it as a both, i am pretty laid back but player? nah hardly... i have never cheated on my chick or laid around with one while broken up. i don't really know where you came about with your judgment of me being a player but it's cool, everyone has their opinions and i've always respected other peoples opinions or i wouldnt be asking for advice here from time to time.. i also need it because i know i don't have all the answers in the world. i def. get what your saying face to face is the way to go and we have a lot of that, but i think her bringing it up to me she wants to have little phone conversations here and there when we are not together physically so ill try doing that.
Thieves Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 To be honest, I'm a girl and I think you're doing fine. I'm not much of a phone person except for with my girls, as in my good friends who are not male. We're girls, so the fact that we can talk on the phone for a long time is no surprise. However, with boyfriends, to me it's not that big of a deal. As long as we see each other enough face to face, I'd be fine. I just don't see the point of us calling each other if it's only gonna be for around 10-15 minutes, you know? Also, it just really depends on the guy and our connection. If we have the type of thing where we can easily talk for a long time about anything, then sure, phone calls are cool. But if he's not that type of guy, then that's cool too. But anyway, I'd say giving her a phone call instead of a text every once in a while wouldn't hurt.
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