lalalandman Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 (edited) So if any of you know my story, I had dated a girl for 5 years. After 4 years, she broke it off and I met another girl whom I dated for 3 months. My LT ex got back in the picture and started harassing us. Eventually the girl and I broke it off and I got back with my ex after all her pleading. Within 3-4 months, she ended up leaving me again. After the BU, I got back in contact with that girl in May. Somehow, her and the ex got ahold of each other and all hell broke loose. In any case, I haven't seen or spoken to this girl in a couple months. She called earlier and left a message. I called her back and she wants to come by tonite. She wants me to teach her guitar. I said that's cool. The thing is, I'm pretty good emotionally right now. I have, for the most part, moved on from both her and the ex. I don't really want anything from her, so I don't see anything wrong with the meeting. Is it ok to be seeing her if I'm good with myself and have no intentions? Anyone see anything wrong with this? Edited October 6, 2011 by lalalandman
january2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 I see all kinds of wrong with this picture. Don't do it. She left you twice and now she calls you out of the blue to drop in and get you to teach her guitar? I disagree with you, it's not cool. Best to maintain your status as "pretty good emotionally." You're allowed to say, "no." If you're hoping for 'three times' the charm', I don't think the odds are good.
TheDovic Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Do you have some doubt in your mind dude? Even a gut feeling, as if I was sure something I was going to do wasn't an issue I wouldn't be asking for advice! Personally I don't see a problem here, although your ex's reasons for calling might not be so innocent, so whilst you're over her, she may not be over you. How would you respond if she asked you out?
Author lalalandman Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 No I'm not talking about the Long Term ex. I'm talking about the other girl.
Author lalalandman Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 I mean, obviously she doesn't want to just 'buddy' up. So I can't justify that at all. If I just keep my hands to myself, I'm pretty sure this can be a professional meeting. The thing is, I've been trying to start a side business teaching private guitar lessons. So I figured this is fine. This is not a reconciliation in my mind
january2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Ask her to pay for lessons if it's just business.
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