lonelynyc Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 (edited) I wanted to start this thread for all of the LSers who have reached the point of no return, where you don't break down anymore in tears or internet stalk your ex anymore because you're simply tired of being sad. Last week was an extremely tough one for me. My ex and I never stuck to NC, and I ended up suffering. I let her use me for comfort and the completion of mundane errands while she was going out dating and trying to find a replacement. I think I snapped on Monday and ended things without a chance of reconciliation because I was tired of the sleepless, tear-filled nights and knew I couldn't go on that way forever. I have been sleeping very well since Monday night. When you hit rock bottom in your ex-obsessing/longing it might be time to bury the past forever. I have been saying for months that I don't know how I would react to seeing her with someone new. I honestly couldn't give a ****, because I know she's not for me. She put me through so much, I don't have any more tears to waste. I don't even want to use the term NC anymore because it's not fitting for my situation. She's now officially a relic of my past. Anyone else getting to that tearless, indifferent stage? Edited October 6, 2011 by lonelynyc
immitable Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 yep, I'm with you. I was thinking the same today, it has been 4 months and I am sick of it, I don't want to think about her anymore and I don't care, I just want to move on and was praying that this will stop.
mike588 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 (edited) I'm only 2 months into being dumped HARD and I can say I don't cry every day or every hour anymore. I'm sleeping better too but as soon as I wake it's hard to go back to sleep. I do think about her everyday though but it doesn't bother me like it used to. I'm beyond sick of it and can't wait until I just don't care anymore,, hopefully that will be soon! I often wish that I could lose my mind sometimes,,, then maybe I'd be free of memories she left behind Edited October 6, 2011 by mike588
Author lonelynyc Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 I think both of you will realize some point soon that you fought the good fight but lost. Most of us did. Everyone here as been agonizing over their ex's for months. We've tried NC, we've tried limited contact, we've tried friendship, we've tried ultimatums, some of us have even tried sex with our ex's. In almost all of our cases it hasn't changed a damn thing. I don't know about you, but dwelling in this sort of stagnation just feels insane. Speaking for myself, I'm ready to join the world of the sane.
sleepykitten Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 This couldnt be more true for me today, it it totally how I feel!!
headsashed Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 im glad this thread was posted as i was just thinking the same,im literally sick and tired of breaking down,crying,thinking about her constantly. Its time to stop,our ex's dumped us,they dont deserve us. Let them cry now,its their turn to suffer like we have.
mike588 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 im glad this thread was posted as i was just thinking the same,im literally sick and tired of breaking down,crying,thinking about her constantly. Its time to stop,our ex's dumped us,they dont deserve us. Let them cry now,its their turn to suffer like we have. I can only hope they suffer alittle atleast! especially mine for what she did!!!
Author lonelynyc Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 To everyone wondering if their ex will suffer, I know for a fact that most of yours will. We have spent months in mourning and they have been looking for the quick fix, the rebound, the replacement. I suspect my ex was stringing me along as a fallback if she struck out in her attempts at meeting new people. Next time she calls my phone in a moment of lonely depression, or nostalgia she'll be greeted with a notice that the number is disconnected. I just got tired of all the disgusting self-pity. I don't want to listen to all the Al Green, Boyz II Men, Isley Brothers, or heartbreaking Puerto Rican boleros anymore. I'm ready to have some fun again. I have a lot going for me and the ex will probably realize that in the ensuing months as she continues to dumpster-dive just to prevent being alone.
headsashed Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 i do hope they suffer even just for 1 day,ive seen my ex cry infront of me when we broke up but that was most likely just guilt. i want her to feel just 1% of the pain ive felt this past month and she may realise she did wrong,but no doubt our ex's wont suffer,they will be all out having a good laugh at us while we sit at home crying ourselves to sleep.
TheDovic Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Tearless? Yes Indifferent? I wish! I've been struggling this week, but I think it's because she showed up at my house last week in tears. I can't get her out of my head and it really blows, but something inside me has changed too! I honestly am starting to think she isn't coming back... AND I'm starting to believe if she came back it would be bad for me. I really want to hold onto that feeling!
headsashed Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 ive had that feeling come to me today dovic,that my ex isnt coming back,it hurts but its also a relief,feels wierd,its like its finally sinking in now. Ive promised myself tonight that i wont shed another tear over her,she doesnt deserve that satisfaction anymore. Satuday is gonna be a killer for me as i know my ex is off out round town and we all know what drunken girls are like,especially my ex's age (20) but im not gonna cry an wonder like i have done this past month,no way. Its time to be strong because this eating/sleeping,worrying,crying crap is just no good,enough is enough.
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