Mar1neOne Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Let me try to make this short. My youngest daughter got into some trouble at school yesterday. I took care of the situation with the school went up and met with the principal and disciplined my daughter. Afterwards, I called my ex's mother, so she could let my ex know.(they live together) I also had my daughter call her to tell her what happened and that she got suspended from school. My ex told my daughter to think of the suspension as a "3 day vacation". I called my ex mother in-law and was not happy about that. Today I get this email. Of course you all know she has been trying to talk to me all week and can't understand why I won't talk to her... "How can you expect me to co-parent when you don't tell me what's going on? You could at least email me to tell me what happened. My reaction to Maddie was based on the story she told me plus the fact that she told me you didn't punish her. I only got on to her for skipping class and not calling one of us to help her deal with the situation. I told her that she handled it completely wrong. I don't understand why she didn't tell you that part. I also don't understand what I did to deserve this..." My daughter is 14 years old, I should not have to call her to let her know whats happened. My daughter should be able to talk with her about it. Plus I let her mother know. My daughter never told her that she wasn't punished. She wouldn't have, because she is being punished. I think this email is really just to get me to answer that last question and not really about my daughter. If she cared about my daughter she wouldn't have said the vacation comment. So, I don't think I should answer, but part of me wants to so that I can tell her this... "You telling our daughter to think of her suspension as a 3 day vacation is in no way trying to be a parent. It is trying to be a friend. She doesn't need more friends, she needs a mother. I understand that you will be picking the kids up tomorrow after school. I will be gone when you get here and I would appreciate you not entering my house." Please tell me what you think or if I should just continue to ignore her.
Author Mar1neOne Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 Now she is texting.... "Don't I even deserve to know why you are ignoring me?" Are you ****ing kidding me???? Hello you are ****ing other men!!!! **** off!!!!
Author Mar1neOne Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 I don't even understand why she is asking me this. She doesn't care or she wouldn't have left me. She wouldn't be dating so quickly.
Zabs Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 CLearly! She KNOWS what a committed Father you are so NATURALLY you are not going to consider a suspension a vaction! SHe is scraping the bucket there because she KNOWS you will want to contradict what she said and rightly so....but on the other hand...she is banking that you will! Especially give the text you just received. Looks like youmight be in for a hard time... Zabs xx
Author Mar1neOne Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 CLearly! She KNOWS what a committed Father you are so NATURALLY you are not going to consider a suspension a vaction! SHe is scraping the bucket there because she KNOWS you will want to contradict what she said and rightly so....but on the other hand...she is banking that you will! Especially give the text you just received. Looks like youmight be in for a hard time... Zabs xx Thanks for the response... she just sent this "I did so many things to try and make you happy throughout our entire marriage... I deserve this?" Am I wrong that this is BS? She did many wonderful things for me, but that ended a year and 10 months ago. She has done nothing but hurt me for the last 13-14 months. How can she be asking me this... Is she delusional? Is she just messing with me? Or am I wrong?
Zabs Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 If you read between the lines, She is looking for you to accept some of the blame for the breakdown of the relationship and wants you to exercise some pity for her in the mess. If you really think she is talking sh*t, try sayin "I never seen so many teeth in a Horse's a**! LOL:lmao: I feel a bit pis**d on your behalf right now because I hate it when people use their children as pawns...which I think will be on the cards. Zabs xx
Author Mar1neOne Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 I honestly don't feel like I am at all to blame now. She left me so she could go to bars and screw around. I have bent over backwards to make her happy and to help her the last year. Two years ago I took like 80% of the blame and looking back I should have taken far less. I blamed myself for traveling for work and not paying more attention when she was diagnosed as bi-polar. I was trying to build a life for my family and trying to support them. I hate how she uses the kids too, she is always doing it!
Chi townD Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 You are those kids father. You are the rock that they need in this REALLY trying time for them. You are their voice of reason, you are there to love them and also to be the disciplinarian when need be. You have to start looking at yourself as a single parent. Obviously, your WW is more concerned about the bars, clubs and sleeping with other men to be a very affective parent. I think that what you're doing right now is just fine. Contact your MIL with any information about the kids and she's get the word when she isn't out running around. No need to respond to her e-mails and texts.
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