lovesickpuppy Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 So, 2 weeks after dumping me by text for no apparent reason, I find out my ex of 3 years has just had sex with an underage girl that is the total opposite to me while still trying to maintain contact with me... I was angry and sent him a long text calling him pretty much every name under the sun and then telling him I'm glad we're over, that's he's a worthless piece of **** and that I regret ever being with him. Was this stupid of me? I just want him to realise I'm not on his leash anymore but I still in a way want him to one day realise his mistake. Do you think he ever will? After all, it's pretty obvious it's a rebound!
Zabs Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 In my experience, people that go after younger people are afraid they will be found out if they go with someone older. Youngers are naive so that makes them an easy target. Underage girl...under 18 you mean?
TheDovic Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Yes you did the right thing because you don't seem to want him back, so it's good you let him know what you're thinking! Secondly, it's very likely he'll realise what he's done. It's very rare a dumper doesn't feel anything, and they tend to start missing their ex's after a few months as opposed to the initial months following the breakup when they feel empowered!!!
Author lovesickpuppy Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 Thank you all for the advice, today has just been a really low day of mine and I still can't get my head around how he could ever do this to me. He's 21...she had JUST turned 17. I feel sick imagining it, wondering if she was better than me, if she was prettier than me
Rorschach64 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Puppy, Don't worry about your beauty and capabilities, because you are beautiful/capable in your own way that makes you special and unique. In regards to you lashing out to your ex, appropriate? Yeah I would be livid. Could you have done it in a better way? Probably, in my opinion, I like to handle things as calm and collective as possible without vulgarities. I learned from a few classes that arguing/debating that name calling and so forth just weakens your position.
Eeyore79 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Call her parents, who will probably call the police. If you know that a crime has been committed (in this case statutory rape) then you have a duty to report it.
Eddie Edirol Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 If he dumped you, it was for a good reason, in his mind. So to him, he wont regret it, he wont ever think its a mistake. It doesnt matter what you told him, because he likely wont care , unless he planned on one day trying to use you for sex. But he's 21. You never know, he might realize it, but most likely not. But realize this, if you sent him that text, you pretty much told him that you still have feelings for him, so it gave him an ego boost. When you still want him to realize his mistake, youre still on the leash. So now he has that and the 17 year old to boost his confidence. What you really should have done is ignore him when he contacts you.
Rorschach64 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Eddie is right. Most people dont regret choices like these till later at the very least and they have to realize it on their own. Hitting rock bottom also helps too.
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