NeoGen85 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 I must have set a record for being friend-zoned. Through a friend I ran across a interesting woman. Tonight's situation makes me feel like I was put in the friend zone. We only seen each other less then a handful of times. Last week I had an excellent night with her in a lovely city on the waterfront that ended in us talking early in the morning. I figured I had a door open and it wasn't too late to ask for a date. She agreed to dinner and a movie. Great! A couple hours before we're suppose to go out she tells me her friends are coming. Then she switches up the plans for a more social night instead of a movie. This is where I declined and decided to chill with my friends. But she later informs me that she was looking forward to seeing me tonight. I still declined because it was as if she didn't get the idea; literally...do I have to spell it out?
ChessPieceFace Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Maybe I'm being naive, but there are other possible interpretations. Maybe she didn't realize your intentions. Or maybe she (for whatever reason) wanted the first date be part of a group. Those do happen. I think you really messed up by cancelling. W/e.
Author NeoGen85 Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 I guess you could say that I'm on my high horse with this one and I myself jumped to conclusions. But at the same time I think my intentions were a bit obvious. Even though we're just meeting each other we have the same group of friends. I can always see them another time. I've been placed in the friend-zone so much over the past year, maybe I'm getting cold about it.
Ajax Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 I think it was perfectly appropriate for you to choose not to go. In fact it was the right thing to do. It wasn't you who changed the plan, it was her. You asked her out for a date in which it would just be the two of you, she accepted and then at the last minute changed the program. If she didn't want to go on a date with you then she should have been up front about it to begin with. Here's the thing though, you're not in the Friend Zone yet because you didn't allow her to put you there. She tried to, but you saw where it was headed and opted out. Stick to your guns and look for dates elsewhere.
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