Buttercup84 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 I didn't want to really accept it but my ex tried breaking up with me a few times during our two year relationship. I remember the first time when we were living together , maybe 5 months. We had an argument and he said casually " do you want me to help you pack ? " We didn't break up then but I often had to convince him to stay with me. Funnily enough he was more keen on me first.Like already planning our life , buying me a kitten and giving me a key to his place all in a matter of months of meeting me. I discussed this with others in a thread I started , and many agree he was rebounding from his past girlfriend. I also read in other threads how people get being in love and infatuation confused. I believe he did love me , but was never IN love with me. He said I love you , wanted to get married etc. But if he was really in love , it would have not died out so fast.And people who really are in love and love eachother do not give up when things get a bit hard. He maybe liked the idea of me , but not who I really was. I know I was in love with him and it was not just infatuation because I would have stuck to it through the hard times , and I did. So do you wonder if it was really love for them ? He was crazy about me first , so proud and happy.Then he seemed to get bored . I believe the realtiy of what a relationship really is like killed it for him , maybe he needs that " rush " of meeting someone .
antz2411 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 i believe there is really a thin line here. infatuation is weakened by time and seperation where real love being inlove is strengthened by time and seperation. this doesn't mean there won't be any pain in seperation, there is great pain in seperation if you are truly in love. haha just my two cents!
oldguy Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Love is a dynamic process forever changing. If it doesn't change it will stagnate. People also change or stagnate but in a relationship if a couple doesn't continually work at changing together they risk growing apart. Infatuation is often said to be two dimensional where as love introduces the third dimension of reality.
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