barriob Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Well, my ex and i have been kinda talking for the past day. so i asked to talk about unresolved issues and he said there is no point and he doesnt want to talk. he is so cold and doesnt care. i want to be friends but i know i feel sad and hurt that he acts like we never had anything special and like i am just any random person to him. it hurts, so what should i do?
Dark Phoenix Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Go NC and bury the hatchet. being friends immediately after a breakup is destructive to the dumpee (you) and will prevent you from healing.
Author barriob Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 well its been like 3 months or so
Dark Phoenix Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 It's obvious that you aren't over him so the whole idea of being friends is a bad idea until you heal completely. If you can't manage to remain NC you aren't ready for friendship and you are far from the point where you should consider friendship with an ex. Go NC and stay NC at least until you heal, when you are indifferent towards him that is the time where you can choose to seek out friendship or not.
Author barriob Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 true. he acts like i am nothing to him.
Dark Phoenix Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 true. he acts like i am nothing to him. Then continue your life as if he is nothing to you, only a memory of your past that you are grateful you experienced but are happy it is no longer part of your life.
Rorschach64 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Barr, What did we conclude from my questions that I asked you last night? You answered your own questions at this point.
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