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Prospective gf confessed she was in a MMF threesome... I am grossed out.

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insaneinthebrain Established Member

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So this girl that i have been seeing for a bit just confessed to me that when she was younger...she partook in a devils threesome. ( two guys) ... at first i was a bit turned on .... but then when i realized what that meant.... it meant that she had been used as a rag doll like one of those porn stars..... it really began to gross me out..... Truthfully, i am not sure i even want to peruse her anymore... as just that thought.. makes me really look at her differntly. .... how can i get over this?

 

We were playing truth or dare ... and i did truth.. I was not expecting her to be honest.... but .. wow..!!! .. that was a shocker...!! so .... any one have any ideas ... anyone ever been thru this.?

lalalandman Established Member

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But maybe next time it will be MFF, and guess who gets to be the male?

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thats an optimistic perspective, however, the paperwork alone to get something like that going is discouraging enough!

EgoJoe Established Member

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She's probably just the first girl that admitted it to you.

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She's probably just the first girl that admitted it to you.

 

 

Thanks for ruining my respect and view of women....

 

 

 

As for the OP, If it's bothering you to this extent now you're better off just to break it off with her. Chances are that you will always have that knowledge running constantly deep in your mind and it will affect the strength of your relationship with her later on. Might as well add "Have you ever been part of a threesome?" to your interview questions as part of your dating experiences and hope that the girl either lies or really hasn't been in a threesome.

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If you like her you shouldn’t let some crazy drunken thing she did stop you. The real dirty girls hide it at all costs so if you move on to the next girl she might have just got done having a football team pull a train on her and you’d be none the wiser.

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i actually really like this girl...

 

she is cool , and we have known each since college.... the lesson is you never really know anyone.... i guess probably thats why she's confessed.... we were sort of aquintances be fore we started seeing each other...

Dust Established Member

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i actually really like this girl...

 

she is cool , and we have known each since college.... the lesson is you never really know anyone.... i guess probably thats why she's confessed.... we were sort of aquintances be fore we started seeing each other...

 

I don't think it's that gross. Like you said it's kind of hot given the right light.

 

Theres girls these days who have had sex with hundreds of guys. Isn't that grosser? They'll probably tell you their virgins too...

 

I say you need to over look it if its just this one thing. It really shouldn't be to hard.

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I am not sure why you would tell someone this, especially if they fancied you. It looks like she is trying to prove how "wild" she is or something?

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I don't think it's that gross. Like you said it's kind of hot given the right light.

 

Theres girls these days who have had sex with hundreds of guys. Isn't that grosser? They'll probably tell you their virgins too...

 

I say you need to over look it if its just this one thing. It really shouldn't be to hard.

 

Well the problem is ..now i want to ask more... but i dont really know if its appropriate.. its kind of like pandoras box..!!

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Everyone's got a past, but they're called a "past" for a reason. Aslong as she isn't pulling a train every Sunday evening then what's the problem.

 

As a guy who's travelled the world, so to speak, I would never knock a girl for doing the same. Life is for living and if you're emotionally mature enough to make decisions on how you experience life (and aslong as you play it safe) then what's the harm. Of course, there will always be people who don't share that view and want to believe in no sex before marriage or similar, in which case fair enough, I hope they find what they're looking for too.

 

If this does eat you up so much now, then maybe it is time to call it a day as it's clear you can't handle the idea of her having sex with two men at once. But before you turn your back on this, just remember how you felt before you played this truth or dare and got the truth out of her. Maybe it's worth talking about before you give up.

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i actually really like this girl...

 

she is cool , and we have known each since college.... the lesson is you never really know anyone.... i guess probably thats why she's confessed.... we were sort of aquintances be fore we started seeing each other...

 

What's to know? The only thing you can reasonably conclude about this woman is that she, like most of us, was more willing to explore her sexuality in her youth. What does that say about who she is today? Perhaps everything and perhaps nothing at all. Her past experience in a threesome does not necessarily preclude her having developed into a respectful, caring, worthwhile partner since then.

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Sorry for my previous post here. I was trying to do a "reality check" with him. People make mistakes and do deplorable sex acts. BTDT got the T-Shirt chaired the fan club. I'm a damn grown up now.

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Cmone, you where playing truth or dare & you didn't think she would be honest, really? Truth & dare is a game of baiting & fishing by it's very nature & intent.

 

You set up an image of her in your mind, she gave you an abrupt reality check that re-tuned that image.

 

was this something she did just prior to meeting you or was it a few years ago?

Is this something she was into or did it happen once?

I keep posting this; it's all about someones credit score, how much credibility do they have.

 

There is one psyc theory that goes something like this; we don't want to hear things about that 'special' gf that we would not want to hear about dear old mom.

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I wouldn't be too worried about her confession..at least she was honest.Also as other posters mentioned it's the 'past'.It doesn't mean she wants this all the time.Also let's be honest there are many males who would love that experience of a menage a trois... and would they confess to their prospective g/f that they did that hmm not too sure Talk to her about it and take it from there after all you two were playing a game remember.

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very intersting views people have.....

 

i mean .. the thin is .. we havent even slept together yet.... but we seem to be headed that way .... i dunno .. i have this fear that thats all i am gonna be thinking about in the middle of it..!

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I think the commentary just show that there is still a double standard for women.

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I dunno... i know i personally dont like the idea of a threesome.. just from a higenic point.

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someone posted "she's probably the first one who confessed" and I completely agree.

 

So what if she did, big deal. You should really appreciate the girls honesty, believe me, the prudes have much dirtier imagination and one day you are replaced for someone the prude fantasized about and she won't give you any reason as to why she broke up with you, "you are a nice guy", "she needs space", "maybe in the future" bla bla bla..:p.

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I dunno... i know i personally dont like the idea of a threesome.. just from a higenic point.

 

Then dont date her. Duh?

 

If this is that big of a deal to you, then WALK AWAY. This is your personal boundary. Don't put yourself in a situation that YOU are uncomfortable with. If it bothers you to the point where you have to ask on a public forum, probably not a good idea to be in a relationship with her.

 

You are an adult right?

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well i want to to date her...

 

I knew she was Mrs popular, but she always gave this " I am good girl vibe".

 

IF THERE WAS SOMEONE WHO I WOULD NEVER EXPECT THIS FROM ... IT WAS HER....

 

Its just kind of a new place for me... I dont think ive ever had to deal with this...

 

That hegenic comment was in raltion to the fact that i could never be in one... but thats just me..

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You ignored Wilson's question. How old are you and how old is she? How long ago did it happen?

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Were both in our in our early 30s. this happend while she was on vacation in europe.. a semeseter a broad in undergraduate school.

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I personally don't feel you will ever get over this. I would walk away if I was in your shoes. Unless you are 110% certain you can deal with this revelation and leave it in the past, then I would walk away as you are not being fair on the girl.

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She's probably just the first girl that admitted it to you.

 

No way, do you know how hard it is to get two straight guys to agree to a MMF? :D God knows I've tried! :p

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