spiderowl Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 A guy I was in touch with via a dating site said he would call me, but wasn't sure when exactly as he worked late shifts, sometimes overnight. That was fine with me. A couple of days/evenings went by and I hadn't heard from him. I'd had a few doubts about him so I guess it didn't bother me. Then he rang me, next morning, at 8am! It was my day off, which he didn't know, but I was still in bed. He woke me. I was polite on the 'phone but I have to say was amazed he rang me at that time. He'd been working during the night and was on his way home. How would you have reacted if someone made their first call to you at that time?
Highness Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 That's just downright rude behaviour. I would never make a social call before 9am unless I knew the person very well. Even if you hadn't been in bed, you could have been getting ready for work, commuting to work or already at work - its such an odd time to make a call, especially the first call for a potential date!! Maybe because of his odd working hours he didn't think properly about the time. However you'd think he would have put a little more thought into what would be the most appropriate time to call you. Did you let him know you were still in bed? Did he apologise? Do you plan on seeing him?
Author spiderowl Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 Thanks. I wondered if he realised just how early it was because he'd been working. Maybe it seemed a normal time to him. He commented that he hoped he hadn't woken me up (which suggests to me he thought it was a possibility(!)). He did apologise once I told him. I was hoping to see a few replies before I decide what to do. I know what I'm thinking of doing.
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 I wouldn't read too deeply into it personally (granted I'm used to being woken up at odd hours anyway, and 8am doesn't seem that early to me [if I really don't want to be bothered while sleeping I make sure my ringers are off])... but perhaps your other doubts are more warranted.
Author spiderowl Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 I'm not reading anything into it really but I did feel it was ridiculous and thoughtless. He was asking to meet up! I make a point of telling people I'm not an early bird and yet he still called at this time. I contacted him later and told him it was inappropriate and I didn't think we were a good match. So that's it. I couldn't go out with anyone that stupid.
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