bml929 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Hi guys, I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 6 months now. It been great with her, but sometimes she make anxious comments. she is now back to school since mid-august and working during the weekend, so she is either at work or at school during each day of the week. But we manage to see each other around 3 times per weeks during the evening. Here's the deal. Now that she have a busy schedule, she make some anxious comments. She is a person that like to be and make thing perfect. She can't be stressful too. Here's my problem, sometimes she make anxious comments since she start school. For example: "I feel bad not to be able to offer so much affection like you do to me" "I feel bad not to be a great girlfriend" "I feel bad not to be able to buy a gift for your birthday" (it was last weekend, she just cook me one of her best meals) (but for her, its wasn't good enough) "Nobody want to be with me with that kind of personality" When she say these comments, i try to make her sure that i understand, listen to her and let her know that i'm here for her. So, i don't know how to comfort her. I had kept some small thing during our relationship. Like the tickets show of our first date, the bill of our first restaurant and the parking ticket when i drove her to the airport. I thought about saying like that i'm crazy...but crazy about her. And then I will show to her these that i kept to prove that i really like her since the first day that i date her (even in love with her). Any advise??
Pasttense Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Maybe she is insecure and you should complement her/tell her how happy she makes you... more. What did you say when she cooked you that great birthday meal?
Author bml929 Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 I said thank you by holding her and kiss her. The next morning, when i had to leave for work and she is still in bed, I kissed her on her cheek and said: thank you for last night, sweety. but she still have anxiety or depressed behavior. Too needy to show her that i kept stuff from our past date as memories of our relationship?
Eddie Edirol Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 (edited) She is fishing for compliments. maybe you dont compliment her enough on her personality or how she makes you feel, or how she looks. If you usually do, and it doesnt seem like enough, then you need to grill her about speciic comments when she makes then and why she says them. if she cant come up with good reasons, dont bother trying to comfort her. It will emotionally drain you. When she talks about not offering you enough affection, it seems like an immature way to turn you off to her so you can break up with her. Its seems reall yfishy to me that she would say things like this - if she doesnt have some kind of clinical mental disorder. Edited October 6, 2011 by Eddie Edirol
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